GiantHockeyFan wrote:
I was out at a social event and one of the women had Tinder open. She was spending less than 3 seconds on each profile and would reject them for the silliest reasons. For example, one guy had a baseball cap on and she instantly assumed he was a sports fanatic and wouldn't spend any time with her. Another guy had glasses so she assumed he was a nerd. Of course, the male models never got rejected even though you could tell they were total losers. I couldn't convince her that maybe, just maybe she might want to slow down and take the time to carefully read each profile.
There is no worse feeling that spending hours carefully crafting a dating profile (or resume) and find out the average person spends just a few seconds reading it. The worst was when I was on eHarmony using guided communication. I spent an hour carefully answering a woman's questions and she responded to my well thought out questions with 1-4 word answers. If you need any more proof online dating sucks, I actually was guilty of ignoring my now wife's profile! Thank God she was a bit aggressive at sending me a "reminder" nudge on eHarmony. I now realize the ONLY reason I got a lot of attention on any site was because of my height and nothing more.
It's not entirely the person's fault however for skimming through. You would not believe how many people probably believed they wrote a "hip" or "quirky" profile when in reality 90+% of them are practically the exact same word for word like they were copied from the same site. How on Earth could you choose someone in that situation? I really doubt 50% of the population is vegan, a health nut and hates TV when I see how many McDonalds there are in my city.
That's not getting into the scam profiles. I am beginning to realize many years later that some of the profiles were probably scams. Contrary to popular believe, they don't act like a Nigerian prince and are very convincing to the point you have to see it to believe it: I just never got to the point where they tried getting money. It is a lot harder to scam someone in real life although certainly not impossible. If I had to do it over again, I had my best luck going to Meetup groups although I did meet a woman who turned out to be bat-hit crazy with a capital C.
When or if my financial stuff gets better I might try eharmony even though can’t really afford to. But I feel the women in it expect since it’s paid for the guys will be well off guys.
I’ve spent hours crafting messages only to get no reply or few words. That lady just wasn’t interested in you, women never have been in me, so they reply but you can tell they don’t care when you type a paragraph and they respond with word or two. Like I’m suppose to continue the conversation on my own.
That was years ago though.ive nit had any matches and while and pof is confusing they hid who you’ve messaged, I worry about messages someone I already did and then I’m a stalker.
Don’t have many meet up groups I can go to or would want to. Most require you have a car and money.
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31 Aug 2019, 4:40 pm
