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20 Jan 2020, 10:10 am

When I go out too bars girls will grind against me when dancing and even kiss me occasionally.


However I notice girls never sit on my lap when flirting with me or they refuse too do it if I ask them too.


I see girls sit on some other guys laps when flirting with them so why will they not do the same too me? is there something wrong with me:?



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20 Jan 2020, 10:17 am

Jamesy wrote:
... I see girls sit on some other guys laps when flirting with them so why will they not do the same too me?  Is there something wrong with me?
How should we know?  You are asking the wrong people.  Ask them!!


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20 Jan 2020, 10:26 am

Fnord wrote:
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... I see girls sit on some other guys laps when flirting with them so why will they not do the same too me?  Is there something wrong with me?
How should we know?  You are asking the wrong people.  Ask them!!




Too embarrassing asking them that question.



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20 Jan 2020, 10:36 am

Jamesy wrote:
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Jamesy wrote:
... I see girls sit on some other guys laps when flirting with them so why will they not do the same too me?  Is there something wrong with me?
How should we know?  You are asking the wrong people.  Ask them!!
Too embarrassing asking them that question.
Well, the only answers you're likely to get from us are either like mine (above) or speculative.

If you are in a strip club, then you have to ask the girls for a "lap dance". If not, then you still have to ask them 'why', not us.


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20 Jan 2020, 10:42 am

Fnord wrote:
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Fnord wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
... I see girls sit on some other guys laps when flirting with them so why will they not do the same too me?  Is there something wrong with me?
How should we know?  You are asking the wrong people.  Ask them!!
Too embarrassing asking them that question.
Well, the only answers you're likely to get from us are either like mine (above) or speculative.

If you are in a strip club, then you have to ask the girls for a "lap dance". If not, then you still have to ask them 'why', not us.




Strip clubs are sleazy places I’d rather a girl did it too me in a social setting like a pub or a house party.



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20 Jan 2020, 10:48 am

Jamesy wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
... I see girls sit on some other guys laps when flirting with them so why will they not do the same too me?  Is there something wrong with me?
How should we know?  You are asking the wrong people.  Ask them!!
Too embarrassing asking them that question.
Well, the only answers you're likely to get from us are either like mine (above) or speculative. If you are in a strip club, then you have to ask the girls for a "lap dance". If not, then you still have to ask them 'why', not us.
Strip clubs are sleazy places I’d rather a girl did it too me in a social setting like a pub or a house party.
Then ask them, not us.


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20 Jan 2020, 10:53 am

There was one time when a girl gave me a lap dance in a bar but then woman’s friend angrily came over too her and said “hey get off him”.

My associates did they best they could too stop the lap dance from happening



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20 Jan 2020, 11:19 am

Funny memory: My grandmother taught me not to sit on a boy's lap unless there was a phone book between us. :P


I agree with Fnord though. Ask them.


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20 Jan 2020, 11:24 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Funny memory: My grandmother taught me not to sit on a boy's lap unless there was a phone book between us. :P


I agree with Fnord though. Ask them.



Like I said it’s too much of an awkward question too ask



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20 Jan 2020, 12:05 pm

It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

At least they flirt with you. Only drunk women have flirted with me in bars. Bars are just not my thing.



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20 Jan 2020, 12:08 pm

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It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

At least they flirt with you. Only drunk women have flirted with me in bars. Bars are just not my thing.




Well I don’t get why girls are happy too sit on some other guys lap but not mine? I don’t think I could even get a drunk girl too do it.


It could have something too do with how sexually attractive an individual is perhaps?



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20 Jan 2020, 12:13 pm

It might not mean anything.



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20 Jan 2020, 12:17 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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... I agree with Fnord though. Ask them.
Like I said it’s too much of an awkward question too ask.
Then you will never really know.


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20 Jan 2020, 12:27 pm

Don’t ask them. Maybe ask a female friend.

It would make you seem desperate. And they probably wouldn’t give you an honest answer, anyway.



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20 Jan 2020, 12:28 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. At least they flirt with you. Only drunk women have flirted with me in bars. Bars are just not my thing.
Well I don’t get why girls are happy too sit on some other guys lap but not mine? I don’t think I could even get a drunk girl too do it. It could have something too do with how sexually attractive an individual is perhaps?
Are you overweight? Many people who are overweight don't have much of a lap to sit on.

Do you dress well? People who don't seem to know how to dress themselves are not very attractive.

Do you "Flash the Cash"? People who are generous with their money are more popular than those who aren't.

Instead of looking at the girls and wondering why the don't like you, look at the boys they're attracted to and determine the common factors that make them attractive. By this I mean to look at things like clothing, posture, facial expression and overall behavior. Do not just assume that the boys are all 'Rednecks' and the girls are all 'B****es', for example -- that way lies depression and madness.

Finally, don't complicate the situation with endless discussions of "Yeah, but..." and "What if...". Once you focus on discussing all the possible reasons why people don't like you and the possible reactions they may have to you, you soon forget about all the ways you can be successful.


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20 Jan 2020, 12:31 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Don’t ask them. Maybe ask a female friend. It would make you seem desperate. And they probably wouldn’t give you an honest answer, anyway.
Yeah ... the female friend will never share his questions with the girls he's asking about, now will they?

:roll: They will, actually...


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