How Does One Know If One Is Normal?

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I must admit that I am generally a bit of a recluse as far as dating goes. I mean... Well. I am still single and probably being single I have saved some unfortunate person from being married to me...

But how do I know if I am normal?

Would I be an ideal husband, or would I be a dreadful husband?


How would I know?

I ask because some of my desires may or may not be different to other people. I really don't know what is or is not acceptable.

You Might Be Normal If...

... Being alone makes you feel anxious.

... Being unable to take credit for someone else's success makes you feel angry.

... Repetitive, routine activities bore you.

... When you see someone reading a book, wearing headphones, or working hard, you get the sudden urge to have a conversation with them.

... The idea that your personal values may not be universal has never occurred to you (until just now).

... The question of whether or not you have anything to say has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not anyone wants to hear it.

... When asked a question, you will do practically anything to avoid having to say "I don't know" in response, even when you truly do not know the answer.

... When people ask you how you are doing, you do not even consider the possibility that they may actually care.

... When trying to understand the meaning of a comment, you immediately dismiss the possibility that the speaker meant exactly what was said and instead look for a hidden meaning.

... When you ask others how they are doing, you become confused if their answer is something other than "Fine".

-- From "128 Signs Why You Might Have a Neurotypical Personality", by Fnord

You wrote a book? That took some thinking in regards to the subject matter.

Yeah, but trying to get a book published that is only about 16 pages (5.5" x 8.5" each) is proving to be difficult. I may have to self-publish at no profit.

Would using a printer and making your own books be an option? Just mark them copywrite if you want to make more etc.

That's what it means to "Self-Publish".

It's meant to be taken only half-seriously.

You can't tell, I don't find you wildly eccentric though.

Another thing MG, I've lined in rural Wales for 4 years and I've also been introduced to farmers and so on who didn't

single me out as particularly weird, I think they said, when told about my AS, "what's wrong with him? He seems
alright to me".

What I mean is, people there were pretty blind to a few little differences.

It is probably why my traits were hidden for so long!

You might find quite a few people who would stand out a little in a slick urban setting.

I’m pretty cuckoo...but I don’t really stand out.

I grew up on smallholdings where we would occasionally help out with the odd farm... So I assumed all my ecetricities were due to my upbringing. It was such a shock when I heard members in here describing certain traits.... I was like "Wait. Did you say...." I could not believe it that aspects of my character are autistic traits. I discovered three traits in a single evening one after the other for the first two, and then a third trait about an hour later. You can imagine te shock I had that evening!
And it reached the point where I don't know where the traits end and the real me begins? Does this make sense?

Team up with an artist (or several!). One quote per page, with an accompanying illustration. Talk to publishers which publish similar things for coffee tables and waiting rooms.

Yep. It's not unusual, on realizing you're part of a group with - at least to a degree - somewhat similar traits or experiences. Generally, reading people's posts and stories lets you figure out what's unique about you.

Personally, I assume that every aspect of myself is repeated somewhere among the eight billion people on the planet. It's just that considering all the aspects I have, and to what degree, cuts that down to maybe a handful of people who are similar to that extreme degree, and it's pretty much guaranteed that they won't have had the exact life I did.

And heck, even if there was someone out there who was near-identical to me, is that really a problem? Lots of people have twins, even sometimes twins with very similar personalities. They're going to be a lot more alike than me and someone with completely different DNA.

If you are interesting, you are not normal.

Also, Fnord, those quotes are hilarious!

I was referring origionally to sexual thoughts. Is there some sort of rulebook of what is acceptable and what is not?