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28 Nov 2019, 2:11 pm

Is it easier for people to get in a relationship when they aren't desperate for one? It seems like when people are desperate for a relationship they start to lose their ability to get in one.



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28 Nov 2019, 2:21 pm

Desperation isn't a good look for anyone, and coming on too hard and too fast is a good way to scare off potential partners.


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28 Nov 2019, 3:55 pm

In 1948 Emily Post's Etiquette actually said that it was a repellent to potential beaux.


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29 Nov 2019, 12:52 pm

Absolutely. I think there's a positive feedback loop that occurs with this too, unfortunately. The more you want a relationship, the more you stress about it and focus on it, the cycle repeats, etc.


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02 Dec 2019, 6:20 am

I've been told I repel women by being too desperate but the thing is that I was VERY attracted to desperate women so I really don't get how me being desperate would be a women repellent. I was desperate cuz I struggled majorly to get any relationship & I think others were misunderstanding my struggle & thinking my desperation was the cause when rather my desperation was the effect of my struggle.


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02 Dec 2019, 7:13 am

Most women find it easier to find a relationship than most men due to men outnumbering women and women being very fussy on a certain type of man. Men outnumber women up until age 60, women begin to outnumber men after 60 due to the fact that women live longer than men.