Does he sound like a jerk?

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The way he speaks to me I do not like my mother says I should stop speaking to him but he's literally the only "friend" i have I have no friends at work or school or any other place. Today he was telling me how upset he was at his boss for fussing at him about something I asked him did this happen today and he replied. "Obviously, are you even reading my text?!" Anyway I stopped text him then and there other times he tells me what to do like telling me I should've taken a day off a work or I should've done that this or the other. Whenever I talk about my own problems he replies with "damn." And that's it. If he asks me a question and I don't reply the way he likes he says just say "yes or no." I told him what kind of comedy I like and he called he sick and disgusting (I like dark comedies like heathers etc.) then a few days later he's sending a meme of the comedy sketch I mentioned.

I don't know, I'm lonely and I don't want to cut the only person out of my life but at the same time I hate the way he speaks to me. I hate talking about myself because I know it will fall on deaf ears, though most of the people you speak to only care to talk about themselves anyway so I don't know. (I hope I get actual replies and no one worded answers please and thank you

If you want more friends, would you consider things like joining a book club, taking up dance classes, a writers or art class, archery/canoeing, hiking/walking group, joining a group involving something you enjoy as a hobby or something you've always wanted to try? Sometimes, all it takes, is a willingness to put yourself out there, to make friends. Anxiety and fear can be a barrier, but pushing yourself beyond the comfort zone can have surprising benefits. Shared experiences over time, can create opportunities and bonds. You have choices with this friend. You can either be upfront with him and tell him how he makes you feel, and that it's pushing you away... in the hope, that you can both work at and enjoy more positive chat... or you can cut respectively cut the ties, and tell him that being around him isn't healthy for you, that you need to move on, and wish him well.

He doesn't sound like he's a real friend to you & I would rather have no friends than fake friends like him. That said it may be possible he doesn't know the way he's coming across, more so if he's on the spectrum but that said there's plenty of people on the spectrum who don't act much like that. So I don't think you have much to lose by taking Juliette's advice & being upfront with him about the way he's making you feel.

If you are a couple I suggest you seek counseling. If not, nevertheless I think you and he may have similar problems. From what you wrote, I would not conclude this guy is a "jerk". It's possible your mother is trying to influence you to think that. I wouldn't stop communicating with him unless he causes you to feel threatened. I do agree in principle you should seek other social connections. WP has another forum for that.

If you had to ask us this, then it most likely a yes.

He seems like the jerk of the year to me. I think you'd be better off without him. I know I wouldn't want to deal with a person like that.

^ But maybe that's how she likes him.