He cried.

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And it was beautiful.

The boy I was crushing on HARD a couple Christmases ago. I still love him - I’d marry him - but I understand why we’re not together & accept him in my life as the very good friend that he is. Although, I’m not gonna lie, if he ever changed his mind I’d be all in. I just don’t tell him those things so as not to ruin the ever better friendship we have.

Just a refresher: He’s the one that came and spent Christmas with me & I said his brother might be on here. (Because his brother is autistic.)

Anyways, on to the story. His birthday is in late December so I took him out for dinner at the best old school vegetarian place in town and gave him some gifts:

A few pairs of underwear from the brand he likes. (SUPER gay! )
Some chocolates he likes.

And then a ring.. one he had tried on while we were shopping. It’s a Michael Kors pride rainbow ring. That day while we were out shopping he had told me, “I’ve been rejected my whole life,” and it just hit me right in the feels. So, I went back later and bought the ring and even though it’s tiny I managed to find someone who could engrave the words “I accept u,” on the inside of the band. I told him that words matter, which is why I have characters tattooed on me, and that even though he knows this sentiment I wanted to give him these words to wear. This was 5 days ago and he messaged tonight to say he hasn’t taken it off and he keeps looking at it sparkle every 5 minutes. Cute. Heart warming. Truly.

But that’s not what made him cry. I gave him one more box to open.. and inside it was an envelope with a card & some cash and a hand written note telling him to go camera shopping. That’s what made him cry.

He’s a singer/YouTuber and a few months ago I asked him if he was making music (he hadn’t posted anything for a while) and he told me that he wants to but his camera is old and is putting lines on everything so it’s no good anymore. He earns a lot less money than I do and pays a bit more for rent - a very common problem for young people in Vancouver. His parents won’t buy him a camera (he IS a grown man) and told him to save up. (“But it takes sooo long.” He said.) Good advice, in general, I agree, but it’s just so unrealistic when it takes literally every penny one earns to make it to the next month. At the time, I told him there’s something almost romantic about saving up for things and left the conversation at that so he wouldn’t have any idea that I’d help him out. I also told him I hope he wouldn’t be disappointed with anything I gave him because the $ could have gone towards a new camera. He’s not rude. He said he wouldn’t think like that and I believe him.

I knew what his budget range was for a camera that he wanted, so I gave him the top end amount. And he cried. And it was beautiful.

He has thanked me so many times the last few days, said I made his birthday and Christmas (before that he wasn’t looking forward to his birthday and getting older.) and told me that no one has ever given him such thoughtful gifts before.

OF f*****g COURSE in my dreams we’d end up together in the future.. But, I accept if we never do & I’m ok with having him as a friend that makes such beautiful memories with me. Also, I couldn’t let it go a year or two before he could afford to be back into his passion hobby online & while I’ve watched very few of his overall videos, I am looking forward to seeing what he makes next. (He typically covers pop songs.)

Not really sure what I expect of this thread. Not really seeking advice (but feel free to give it if you like), more or less just wanted to share because making his bday/Christmas has totally made mine. And I guess I just want to inspire others to be generous and thoughtful with gift giving - if you have the means to treat someone that means something to you, do it, it feels fantastic!

Merry Christmas

Who knows? Maybe he will change his mind and “take the plunge.”

Merry Christmas.

Thank you for sharing. Amid all the troubles of life, love and true friendship endure.

Merry Christmas!

Aww... That’s so sweet!

Why aren’t you guys together? What’s his hang up?

Just envisioning this scenario based on his reactions, I can’t imagine why you wouldn’t be. Of course, how I would react may be different than how he would, I suppose...

Improbable, but not completely impossible I suppose.

He has been incredibly kind to me, though, and hence my reason for spoiling him.

It’s not all that complicated, just very personal, so I’ll give you the gist of it but intentionally keep it vague.

In a nutshell; sexual attraction. Thing is, I had a misdiagnosed skin condition that was rather.. unsightly. It’s since been properly diagnosed and treated and is healing, Very Very slowly. Not sure yet to what extent any permanent scarring will be, but once I know & my skin is healed up well enough, I’ll begin getting more tattoos that’ll camouflage anything I want covered or distracted from. It’s been 2 years now and I’d guesstimate healing at about 75/80%ish - hoping that by this time next winter I can start getting all arted up.

It was actually this issue that spurred me to spoil him, tbh. It wasn’t until recently that I realized this was his hangup, and that he was far too polite to tell me so. Such a big heart for such a small person.

So, while I still consider it unlikely, it is technically possible that at some point in the future that he may have a change of heart because I’ll have changed in appearance (mostly the healing, not the additional tattoos) - but I’m not gonna hold my breath on that ever happening. I’ll just continue to appreciate him for the friend he is to me, and also for his voice and singing.