5 ways you sabotage your love life

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15 Oct 2013, 4:33 pm

http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-ways-you- ... y-science/

Cracked.com articles are either great or terrible--and this is the former.

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15 Oct 2013, 4:47 pm

It's taking a while to load on my screen.. but aside from that, I would believe comparing yourself to others is a good way to sabotage your love-life.

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15 Oct 2013, 5:14 pm

I think it's a very interesting article, and well worth the read. Cheers

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16 Oct 2013, 12:46 am

I never even made it to that point.

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16 Oct 2013, 12:58 pm

Surprisingly insightful. I now have 5 additional reasons to blame myself for my last relationship going to hell.

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16 Oct 2013, 1:12 pm

aspiemike wrote:

It's taking a while to load on my screen.. but aside from that, I would believe comparing yourself to others is a good way to sabotage your love-life.

2nd post I've found really meaningful from aspiemike today worth repping +1

If you compare yourself to your friends or people that are successful in relationships than you will doom yourself. Everybody needs to figure out their own identity and have their own persona & theme that defines them.

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16 Oct 2013, 1:34 pm

lost561 wrote:

aspiemike wrote:

It's taking a while to load on my screen.. but aside from that, I would believe comparing yourself to others is a good way to sabotage your love-life.

Thanks again :wink:

it's helpful feedback as well. I won't lie when I was thinking more along the lines of 'what does he/she have that I don't have' mentality. (ie. wondering why the girl you are dating for months suddenly takes a liking to a new person that has entered your lives and the jealousy that plays out from this scenario).

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16 Oct 2013, 2:06 pm

I will also add this... if you have this reoccurring problem of staying firmly in the friendzone with girls, then read through the thousands of comments at the bottom of the article. There's some surprisingly good advice from the average fellow.

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16 Oct 2013, 4:51 pm

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In general, women saw their male friends as just that, and said that they thought the guy felt the same. Meanwhile, in another room, the men were all telling the researchers about how they totally wanted to bone their female friends and, more importantly, how they were sure those sexified feelings were reciprocated.

Sounds about right! The way guys delude themselves about this never ceases to amaze me.

Reminds me how as a teenager I knew this guy who would keep telling me (and other guys) how this girl totally wants him. He literally said "she wants to f**k me! Yep! I know it! She wants to f**k me!" Knowing the girl and the relationship between them, it was just laughable to me.

It's been recently pointed out to me I might be at the other extreme, though...

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16 Oct 2013, 4:59 pm

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That's the male pursuer trait - an evolutionary advantageous trait inherited from the ape days.

Alpha males always have it too.

I so lack this trait btw.

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18 Oct 2013, 2:08 am

funny how none of those things applies to me

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18 Feb 2020, 7:26 am

Unnecessarily crude but funny and insightful. Thanks for the post. I definitely agree with the finding your soulmate fantasy/delusion.

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