Sister in-law offering to help creating a dating profile

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One of my sister in-laws has offered to help me create a dating site/app profile. She also suggested I ask my other sister in-law if I wanted as well. So far, I haven’t taken up the offer yet. I don’t know what site/app to use and I don’t want to go back to ones I have tried but had no success with.

I say go for it. If they're using a dating site/app, then they have experience with it and know what women will be looking for since they are women after all. Obviously, review what they have to say first. You'll get ignored if you're profile is very generic like saying you like to travel or you really like The Office. Apparently that's the most mentioned show on dating apps, next to Parks and Rec, and women are getting sit of seeing it on profiles. Good Luck!

I’ve never watched that show nor the latter. Dodging some bullets already.

Have you tried the Facebook dating app? I've heard it's quite good.

I think your sisters-in-law might have some insight how to make an effective profile. It might be worth considering. Either way, it's nice that you are considering a few options.

Best wishes with whatever you decide to do.

Don't go on Plenty of Fish, if you haven't already.

That one was a grueling experience for me. Never got any replies the summer I tried it, the amount of single mothers was huge, and the expectations the women were posting discouraged me.



I’ve never used it. I have a Facebook account but I hardly ever use it.

I would say take her up on it but while you're at it ask if she has any friends who are interested in hanging out.

Marknis, please PM me. I've accidentally ended up with some tiny bit of an amorous history, so maybe I can pass it along to you. A buddy of mine I talked to the other day gave me an analysis of it from the perspective of a very sharp NT outsider, so now there are words for the experience...of how I started flirting by accident and how it worked successfully. There is probably enough commonality that some of what worked for me would work for you.

When I was dating I had strick rules. I never dated a single mom, I never dated a divorced person. I was never mean to then and there is nothing wrong if someone wants to date them I was friends with several just wasn't interested in anything other then friends.

I say go for it as long as you know for sure they have your best interest at heart and see what happens if you don't take chances in this world you will never get any where.

All things equal, a better dating profile will "help" you find a date

Not all things are equal

Some things are not happening or physically possible


A better dating profile will only get you so far

I didn't even bother with POF because it was quite clear most women (and I am sure men too) had very serious psychological issues/baggage from being cheated on, abused, etc. that you were expected to deal with. How many times did I read "NO GAMES!! !" or "ALL MEN ARE PIGS PROVE ME WRONG" or my favorite "I know this is a waste of time but here goes nothing". There was never any mention of what they had to offer but they always had a laundry list for you. Almost like my crazy ex who despite having no job, no education, no prospects and being mentally unstable pointed out on her profile how she was "too good" for what was obviously referring to me. Whatever.

I did meet someone who had a POF profile (I met them elsewhere) and she was downright scary. I made a lighthearted, inoffensive joke and she angrily ranted on and on about how she was a black belt and would stand up to anybody and nobody was going to take advantage of her. She was also in massive debt, lived in a crappy apartment and was also legally liable for her ex because she sponsored him. Single life looked really damn appealing at that point!

I still maintain that the only major experience I got from online dating was a deep mistrust of women in general and an overall bitter and jaded attitude that nearly scared my wife away. I grant I did meet my wife online but I would have eventually found her outside of a dating site anyway. Sure I managed to get tons of dates by the end, but what was the point of spending an hour with a serial dater who I had little interest in?

There's also a bunch of people who would ask me to message them on a phone number of theirs. It literally says on the website that people who do that usually have bad intentions.

Scammers try to get you off of the site and try to talk to you through other means if you ever find someone on a date site that starts hitting you up for money it is a scam.

Yep. The one person on eHarmony who I now know was a scammer did this, insisting they would prefer MSN messenger to communicate. When I politely refused, "she" said she understood and I never heard from "her" again. The thing about scammers is that they aren't Nigerian Princes looking to wire you millions of dollars or making threats. In many cases, they have normal pictures, speak proper English, tell believable stories and otherwise act perfectly rational.

I often wonder how many scam profiles tried to contact me over the years but broke it off very quickly once they realized I either wasn't a fool or was too oblivious.

It’s probably not going to happen anytime soon now. My sister in-law’s cousin committed suicide yesterday.

I'm sorry Markins. My condolences to your family.

I think you should take the offer.