I am seeking more information on GroovyDruid's theory of flirting Asperger and attracting potential mates. I'm not sure this message got sent.
Hello! GuessWho <Chris Marsh>, brotherAspie, age 37
I stumbled across Groovy Druid's research article some months ago. I've been working as a Web developer now 8 years. Last March a manager married an ex-employee. Double hit for me, first, chalk up another one for the NTs, and, is it a bad thing to wisely keep the job on your left hand and your love on the right hand?
After reading a few online articles, yours, plus wikipedia's articles on Nerd and love_shyness, the truth started to set me free. The Wikipedia Nerd article was telling. Popular culture often depicts nerd as lovelorn seeking women above their status, and nerds are often depicted as being obnoxiously overconfident with respect to some women, and are often rebuked, to comic relief.
I stopped having so much a problem with the female extroverts in conference planning who are our neighbors to us in Web design (we do their conference web sites). Hey, I do get fascinated by socially savvy female NTs, especially extroverts, but I realized that the culture was what was hurting me. All of us do our best to leave our feelings out of the work. I know what angry feelings at work are, from past jobs.
I ordered all three applicable books to men (How To Succeed with Women, Signals, The System) from Amazon and all have arrived. Although I object to the advertised application of The System and How To Succeed with Women, I do understand that getting into any woman's heart requires communication on the nonverbal frequency.
If it sometimes leads men to sex with women right away, their hearts are misplaced, as where your heart is, there your treasure is too.
I have been critiquing Valentine and Louis/Copeland. I do not want to join E-Harmony (Equally Yoked Christian Singles was a major failure, Dateable a minor success) until I understand nonverbal communication. If the critique on aspiesforfreedom.com interests you, here is the
link
http://www.aspiesforfreedom.com/showthr ... #pid129534
12 Aug 2007, 5:13 pm
