Attraction

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I’m 49, why am I attracted to men in their early 30? I’m on OkCupid.

Because you’re attracted to them....

I was attracted to older women when I was younger.

Attraction is different for everyone, as long as you are attracted to people who are biological adults (i.e., not prepubescent)

My wife’s older than me (6yrs in our case): it’s not a problem.
Also have in-laws who had successful ‘till-death-do-us-part’ marriages with age gaps as wide as 23 years.
I think once you’re both properly adults whether you can live together contentedly becomes the important factor.

I shouldn’t be attracted to men in their early 30s. I’m halfway to 50

I find I've only ever rarely been attracted to men in my own age bracket.
They are always older, but it doesn't feel to me like they are that much older.

Man I really like and have been out with recently is ten years older and it REALLY doesn't feel like it at all. He also an aspie.

My ex was 15 years older...

Essentially I haven't dated anybody close to my own age since I was a teenager.

I think it is about mental age and other levels of attraction at play. I don't see there being anything wrong with your attraction to younger men - they are adults and not at all close to being teenagers, early 30's is okay.

Some men at that age really like older women close to your age - some find it exciting to be with an older, independant, experienced woman. I think experiences come into play sometimes, like they might have had a crush on a friend's mother or their teacher instead of girls at school when they were younger and experiencing their sexual awakening.

Thanks, I was embarrassed. You were right, it is my mental age, I’m nowhere near my late 40s, I’m going to be 50 in August. I find some guys who are 30 & 31 on OkCupid that like me, some of them wanted to talk to me, I’m not attraction to alot of men those ages, I had some men that were 28 & 29, but I wasn’t interested in them.

Well technically you would have to be 25 to be halfway 50, maybe you have the mentality of a 25 year old? That is a joke not trying to insult. Anyways there is nothing wrong with an adult being attracted to other adults in a different age group. So you are 49 doesn't mean its wrong to be interested in 30 year olds they are adults and not underage so go for it. Some younger men even prefer older women and vice versa. I mean for me it seems a bit odd but having seen a documentary about age gap relationships like a lot of those couples seemed really happy regardless of the age difference with their partner.

I mean seriously if you do genuinely prefer younger men, there are certainly younger men who are into dating older women. So you could certainly potentially get a relationship with a man in his 30's if he's into dating older aged women. I even know a guy though he seems a bit more into one night stand type things....but even so he kinda prefers older women. Word has it he even may have slept with one of my brothers exes mom, I mean the guy just likes older women and he's in his 20's.

If it’s for marriage and the guy wanna have kids? Yes, the difference is big.

I suspect that lots of guys who are into older woman are looking for sexual flings or they're wanting their romantic partner to act like a mom with them. This is not the case with all guys who are into older women but it's something to try & wean out by describing yourself in your profiles & early on when communicating with guys.

When I was 21 I hanged out with ladies in their mid 30s my buds wanted to date underaged girls when I was 34 I married a 24 year old Aspie girl and been married for 11 years I would not worried about what others think just do what makes you happy