I'm living with someone who is...

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...emotionally abusive and i need to leave but i'm worried that nobody else will even pay attention to me. I don't know what do do.

Emotionally abusive people are really good at making you believe nobody else will ever care about you again, but I guarantee they are wrong. The best thing you can do is leave. Good luck. Let us know if you need support.

Another Aspie man here. Sounds tough. I'm here if you want to talk it over

My first wife was emotionally abusive. I was not abusive to her in any way. Was I partly to blame for our toxic co-dependent relationship? Yes I was. However even though it was difficult for me to end the relationship, I knew the prospect of enduring a lifetime of emotional abuse would have been even more toxic. I made the right decision.

I hope you're able to do what's best for you.

Independence is better for your psyche than emotional abuse.

Please get support, and don't allow a toxic person to undermine you. It will only get worse.

Hugs

I hope you are able to get away safely and heal.

Discretely gather all of your personal items like birth certificate, social security card, slowly move to a new bank account and credit card to establish your own independent accounts. Find a place to stay when you leave (do you have family or friends you can stay with who will respect your decision?)

Research how to leave an abusive relationship, some advice is directed at women, but there is still value in the advice regardless of gender.

There is an article by a woman named Maddie from Australia that outlines how to safely leave the relationship. Try Google since I can't post a link....

Act normal up until you make the break. It's like playing a role to keep you safe.

Once you leave, speak to her only to settle assets and anything legal, such as divorce proceedings.

She will try to pull you back with all the emotional tricks she can. Don't let her.

I sincerely wish you all the best and safety and sanity

After you've made your break from her, look for a good therapist who will be able to help you sort yourself out and heal.