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20 May 2020, 5:16 pm

A guy said he loves me after 4 days of knowing me.



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20 May 2020, 5:55 pm

That's cool! Do you feel like you love him?



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20 May 2020, 6:19 pm

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A guy said he loves me after 4 days of knowing me.

In real life or online?


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20 May 2020, 9:13 pm

I’d say that it is impossible.



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21 May 2020, 12:34 am

quite an extreme wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
A guy said he loves me after 4 days of knowing me.

In real life or online?

Online



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21 May 2020, 12:37 am

I was very interested in him & I really really like him. When he told me, I said ok.



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21 May 2020, 1:23 am

That's awesome!



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21 May 2020, 2:25 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
quite an extreme wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
A guy said he loves me after 4 days of knowing me.

In real life or online?

Online


yep. definitely impossible :)


of course. you can fall in love with someone's words. but that's all it can ever be, i think.
my gut feeling says to be careful as this guy is probably going to be very clingy. but i don't know much.


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21 May 2020, 8:11 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
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A guy said he loves me after 4 days of knowing me.

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I may be wrong but nobody really get's people online. You can't tell how they behave, how they emotionally are and how they'll be towards you. You may like the pics but you can't really tell what's up with them. It's kind of a blind date. For this treat it just as a way to make a first appointment and stay carefully please!


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21 May 2020, 11:48 am

I'm seeing more red flags here than there were in Santiago last fall.

Trust, but verify. I would be extremely skeptical.



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21 May 2020, 12:32 pm

Ask him what he loves about you, and what he knows about you.

If he can't remember any details of your life or your personality, he can't really love "you". He might love chatting, or love having a new friend, but the love wouldn't be specific to who you are as a person. If he just says blanket statements like "You're really sweet", words that could apply to anyone, then he doesn't know you enough to be in love.


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21 May 2020, 1:15 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Ask him what he loves about you, and what he knows about you.

If he can't remember any details of your life or your personality, he can't really love "you". He might love chatting, or love having a new friend, but the love wouldn't be specific to who you are as a person. If he just says blanket statements like "You're really sweet", words that could apply to anyone, then he doesn't know you enough to be in love.


Precisely.



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21 May 2020, 1:17 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Ask him what he loves about you, and what he knows about you.

If he can't remember any details of your life or your personality, he can't really love "you". He might love chatting, or love having a new friend, but the love wouldn't be specific to who you are as a person. If he just says blanket statements like "You're really sweet", words that could apply to anyone, then he doesn't know you enough to be in love.



Very good point.



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21 May 2020, 3:31 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
A guy said he loves me after 4 days of knowing me.


A guy that says that he loves after 4 days is very likely to be a scammer or he's very broken. I'd be very careful if I were you.

- Have you seen what he looks like?
- Have you heard him speak or seen him on camera?

You should ask many questions why he loves you. Remember, scammers also play on emotions too, hopefully that is not the case but don't rush into this relationship, give it some time and analyse before making any irrational decisions.


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21 May 2020, 4:27 pm

^ or he smokes good stuff.



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21 May 2020, 6:04 pm

Just be careful. If this guy continues to pursue you on a daily basis, this may be an indication of something he does not want people to know.

As mentioned already, this guy could be either a con artist or a very desperate person.


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