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Kitty4670
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23 Jun 2020, 7:22 pm

How people know they are in love? I’m dating a guy online, we been texting almost all day, we know each other for 7 days. He said he loves me, is that too soon still? Can you still be friends when you are dating them?



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23 Jun 2020, 7:29 pm

If you have to ask if you're in love, you're probably not.

I would highly recommend still being friends with someone you date. If the friendship disintegrates, the relationship could become stressed and more difficult than it would otherwise need to be.


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23 Jun 2020, 7:48 pm

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
If you have to ask if you're in love, you're probably not.

I would highly recommend still being friends with someone you date. If the friendship disintegrates, the relationship could become stressed and more difficult than it would otherwise need to be.


Damn!
Am *I* the only one who hears alarm bells ringing?

Met a guy for only 7 days online and haven't met him yet in person, and he is in luv with her? 8O

Make sure he doesn't ask for money.
There are 10 billion scammers out there.

But if he is genuine,
I would still be concerned with:
- His intent,
- His mental state.

How "Needy" is he?
How "lonely" is he?
How "amorous" is he?

One does realise it is a bit odd to say something like that after knowing someone for only 7 days online, right?
And NTs usually find saying this easier than those on the spectrum.
I am assuming he is an NT, obviously.

Regardless of "luv", Kittykat needs to learn more about the other person, and vice versa.

Sorry to be a downer,
But you hear so many bad stories on the media, about romance scammers. 8O



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24 Jun 2020, 10:09 am

Yeah.. maybe he's just playing around a bit. I wouldn't take such things too seriously. Do you even know how he looks like?



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24 Jun 2020, 1:46 pm

Kitty, do you want more warnings about scammers? If so, I will happily oblige.

Yes, do not send any money to anyone.

If you prefer to only date online and never meet in person, that is your prerogative. Either way, I hope you find the experience enjoyable (otherwise what is the point of having it?)

All of the best~


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24 Jun 2020, 10:06 pm

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Kitty, do you want more warnings about scammers? If so, I will happily oblige.

Yes, do not send any money to anyone.

If you prefer to only date online and never meet in person, that is your prerogative. Either way, I hope you find the experience enjoyable (otherwise what is the point of having it?)

All of the best~


We all do. :wink:



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25 Jun 2020, 9:02 am

Pepe wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
If you have to ask if you're in love, you're probably not.

I would highly recommend still being friends with someone you date. If the friendship disintegrates, the relationship could become stressed and more difficult than it would otherwise need to be.


Damn!
Am *I* the only one who hears alarm bells ringing?


I have tinnitus.

I hear alarm bells all the time.

And Kitty, no sane human falls in love in 7 days.



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25 Jun 2020, 2:09 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
If you have to ask if you're in love, you're probably not.

I would highly recommend still being friends with someone you date. If the friendship disintegrates, the relationship could become stressed and more difficult than it would otherwise need to be.


Damn!
Am *I* the only one who hears alarm bells ringing?


I have tinnitus.

I hear alarm bells all the time.

And Kitty, no sane human falls in love in 7 days.


Wrong. It can happen within less then a hour or even at first sight, but nearly never ever online, because it's nearly impossible to establish an emotional connection there. At maximum he might like his own imagination.


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26 Jun 2020, 1:34 am

quite an extreme wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
If you have to ask if you're in love, you're probably not.

I would highly recommend still being friends with someone you date. If the friendship disintegrates, the relationship could become stressed and more difficult than it would otherwise need to be.


Damn!
Am *I* the only one who hears alarm bells ringing?


I have tinnitus.

I hear alarm bells all the time.

And Kitty, no sane human falls in love in 7 days.


Wrong. It can happen within less then a hour or even at first sight, but nearly never ever online, because it's nearly impossible to establish an emotional connection there. At maximum he might like his own imagination.


When did we start talking about me? :scratch:

I believe KittKat has broken things off with him,
Based on the new thread she has made.