alex wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
I met a guy a day before my birthday, August 25th. He already wants to meet me. Why men want to hurry in a relationship? I want to take my time, the relationship may last longer if you both go slowly.
What if you meet and realize you aren’t right for each other? Then you wasted all that time talking without meeting first.
I don't see it that way myself, though I am, admittedly rather odd.
The way I see it, even if the relationship doesn't work out, the journey in between can be enjoyable.
*Real* feeling can be felt.
Most things in life become stale and die.
One might at least enjoy some aspect of it before it withers.
Having said that, people need to put a deadline on something like a relationship, so if it doesn't work out, someone has time for a potential new victim, errr, I mean significant other, in their life.
Yes, agreed. The courtship phase of a relationship is very enjoyable and so you don't want to spoil it by advancing too fast. Once people are talking and in a relationship they tend quit many things they do during courtship and things become boring. I think that if you use extended courtship (years) instead, it wil be a lot more enjoyable, and you might even decide you want to continue with the courtship stuff too since you are so used to it. Another important aspect is that attachment (bonding) in neurodiversity mostly happens during courtship, so if you go too quickly over that phase, you end up with a poor connection that easily breaks.