30 Sep 2020, 3:56 pm
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30 Sep 2020, 5:40 pm
30 Sep 2020, 6:05 pm
30 Sep 2020, 6:22 pm
30 Sep 2020, 6:27 pm
Mountain Goat wrote:
This is puzzling. I am wondering why they ask. Did you say anything to them tnat made them assume that you were offering them money? (I am not saying you meant to do that. I am just puzzled).
Don't give up. Take a break maybe to get yourself back on your feet if that makes sense... But never give up hope. The right one maybe just around the corner!
Don't give up. Take a break maybe to get yourself back on your feet if that makes sense... But never give up hope. The right one maybe just around the corner!
There are no excuses for this psychopath asking for money.
Surely you can see this.
It is good that this creature was so direct.
Leave the garbage behind and move on from here.
30 Sep 2020, 7:25 pm
30 Sep 2020, 8:42 pm
QFT wrote:
Its not about men or women, thats about dating sites. Some dating sites are riddled with scammers. There are still some people there that aren't. Scammers aren't real people: they lie about their identity and invent their whole life story. So don't judge real people based off of scammers. As long as you avoid the scammers and only talk to people that are real, you will be fine.
The good thing is that there are ways by which you can tell if someone is a scammer, before you ever talk to them. Here are some of them:
a) Scammers often use "am" instead of "I am"
b) Scammers write a really flowerly profile such as "looking for the true love" without writing anything down to earth
c) Scammers might contact you with what appears to be a generic letter that is mass mailed to lots of people. Such as "Am (see part a) so and so, seeking such and such relationship". Nobody who is real ever starts out saying what they are seeking in the very first email, thats what profile is for. But scammers do that for some reason.
d) Grammar mistakes. Now, I am not talking about all grammar mistakes -- I mean we all make them from time to time. But scammers make really obvious ones that betray English is not their first language. Like one example that I keep seeing is that when they write me that first letter they say "what are you seeking for" instead of "what are you looking for".
There are some other signs as well, basically you can learn from your own experience to identify them. As soon as you see one of those signs, don't respond to them. And then your experience will be much better.
The good thing is that there are ways by which you can tell if someone is a scammer, before you ever talk to them. Here are some of them:
a) Scammers often use "am" instead of "I am"
b) Scammers write a really flowerly profile such as "looking for the true love" without writing anything down to earth
c) Scammers might contact you with what appears to be a generic letter that is mass mailed to lots of people. Such as "Am (see part a) so and so, seeking such and such relationship". Nobody who is real ever starts out saying what they are seeking in the very first email, thats what profile is for. But scammers do that for some reason.
d) Grammar mistakes. Now, I am not talking about all grammar mistakes -- I mean we all make them from time to time. But scammers make really obvious ones that betray English is not their first language. Like one example that I keep seeing is that when they write me that first letter they say "what are you seeking for" instead of "what are you looking for".
There are some other signs as well, basically you can learn from your own experience to identify them. As soon as you see one of those signs, don't respond to them. And then your experience will be much better.
I should copy this & paste it to remember. In the beginning, this guy used periods & comas, he sounded real. Why he continued texting me for 3 weeks then asked me for money the 4th week, when he asked for money then I heard alarms going off. A man from another site, he said, guys calm they ran out of money for food, they need money for food, I heard this before from another guy I was talking to. This guy I was talking to for a month, he asked me for $5,000
30 Sep 2020, 8:44 pm
30 Sep 2020, 8:54 pm
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30 Sep 2020, 9:00 pm
30 Sep 2020, 10:29 pm
Kitty4670 wrote:
QFT wrote:
Its not about men or women, thats about dating sites. Some dating sites are riddled with scammers. There are still some people there that aren't. Scammers aren't real people: they lie about their identity and invent their whole life story. So don't judge real people based off of scammers. As long as you avoid the scammers and only talk to people that are real, you will be fine.
The good thing is that there are ways by which you can tell if someone is a scammer, before you ever talk to them. Here are some of them:
a) Scammers often use "am" instead of "I am"
b) Scammers write a really flowerly profile such as "looking for the true love" without writing anything down to earth
c) Scammers might contact you with what appears to be a generic letter that is mass mailed to lots of people. Such as "Am (see part a) so and so, seeking such and such relationship". Nobody who is real ever starts out saying what they are seeking in the very first email, thats what profile is for. But scammers do that for some reason.
d) Grammar mistakes. Now, I am not talking about all grammar mistakes -- I mean we all make them from time to time. But scammers make really obvious ones that betray English is not their first language. Like one example that I keep seeing is that when they write me that first letter they say "what are you seeking for" instead of "what are you looking for".
There are some other signs as well, basically you can learn from your own experience to identify them. As soon as you see one of those signs, don't respond to them. And then your experience will be much better.
The good thing is that there are ways by which you can tell if someone is a scammer, before you ever talk to them. Here are some of them:
a) Scammers often use "am" instead of "I am"
b) Scammers write a really flowerly profile such as "looking for the true love" without writing anything down to earth
c) Scammers might contact you with what appears to be a generic letter that is mass mailed to lots of people. Such as "Am (see part a) so and so, seeking such and such relationship". Nobody who is real ever starts out saying what they are seeking in the very first email, thats what profile is for. But scammers do that for some reason.
d) Grammar mistakes. Now, I am not talking about all grammar mistakes -- I mean we all make them from time to time. But scammers make really obvious ones that betray English is not their first language. Like one example that I keep seeing is that when they write me that first letter they say "what are you seeking for" instead of "what are you looking for".
There are some other signs as well, basically you can learn from your own experience to identify them. As soon as you see one of those signs, don't respond to them. And then your experience will be much better.
I should copy this & paste it to remember. In the beginning, this guy used periods & comas, he sounded real. Why he continued texting me for 3 weeks then asked me for money the 4th week, when he asked for money then I heard alarms going off. A man from another site, he said, guys calm they ran out of money for food, they need money for food, I heard this before from another guy I was talking to. This guy I was talking to for a month, he asked me for $5,000
That seems really strange that he waited a month instead of asking for money sooner.
Did he ask to switch from dating site to another avenue of communication right away? Thats another sign of a scammer. I am not talking about "soon" I am talking about "right away". I mean, doing it after you talked for half an hour is normal, but doing it on the very first message isn't.
Also, what media did he use? Scammers seem to like Whats app for some reason.
Also, how did that month of you talking go? Like did the two of you talk about everyday things like work, school, etc.? Or was it just flowerly letters about love? Scammers don't like to talk about normal everyday things since they aren't real so they basically have nothing real to say. All they do is just talk about love.
And I am sorry you were scammed in the past. I was scammed as well. I lost 8000 dollars. No, it wasn't romance scam, it was "get rich" scam (someone told me he will get a lot of income that he will share with me if I help him buy a land for a church and the orphanage, and I fell for it). But ever since that happened I know to avoid it.
01 Oct 2020, 7:58 am
01 Oct 2020, 8:01 am
01 Oct 2020, 8:06 am
kraftiekortie wrote:
I wish you could meet a guy in your neighborhood. I really don't like these online sites.
I have never been to one.
Not interested.
Don't trust them.
01 Oct 2020, 8:10 am
I gave up on men when I was five years old..... 
