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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ Yes the two articles talk about two common causes of it: age and disability; but AS may cause SI too for instance!
Rather the way you are and they way you act. May be time to change yourself a bit.
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Life has to be an adventure!06 Nov 2020, 9:16 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
James’ thread inspired me to post this thread.
I so relate to this social phenomena even tho I am not “disabled” nor old:
I so relate to this social phenomena even tho I am not “disabled” nor old:
So, you are saying you have gone through menopause?
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Like in the first article; Maria mentioned “ There have been a couple of times when younger male students have talked about women in my presence where I don't think they would have when I was younger, so kind of like she's not in the game anymore or at least in our game so we can say whatever we want in front of her (1).”
This actually happened to me back in the university; 4 girls next to me talking about the handsome qualities of some guys in class - as if I was not present there .
That was a real case of SI.
SI is the ultimate form of unattractiveness.
This actually happened to me back in the university; 4 girls next to me talking about the handsome qualities of some guys in class - as if I was not present there .
That was a real case of SI.
SI is the ultimate form of unattractiveness.
Interesting.
All my life I have wanted to be Secretly Invisible.
To each, there own.
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^ That does not sound good. 
If that is personal experience, I grieve for you.
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07 Nov 2020, 4:08 am
^^^thank you for caring 
07 Nov 2020, 6:15 am
quite an extreme wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ Yes the two articles talk about two common causes of it: age and disability; but AS may cause SI too for instance!
Rather the way you are and they way you act. May be time to change yourself a bit.
He has changed himself. I've seen photos. I'm sick of strangers on the internet saying, "change this, change that, change the next thing".
It's honestly led me to feel very insecure about myself. I feel like I'm always trying to be a better person and that's exhausting. So much so that I've given up striving to be whatever attractive is. I just want to be myself. I don't care if anyone wants me anymore. I'm tired of pleasing other people because I always fail anyway.
But the way we talk, as autistics, I think is a huge turn off to NTs. We're too blunt and factual. They don't connect with us regardless of what body we live in or how modern our hair looks.
I didn't realise that I come over in a very controlled manner until a friend of mine pointed it out recently. English is her second language and she feels like she's often grasping for words or waffling on and beating around the bush. She praises the way I am succinct and use well chosen words in conversation. She finds me easy to understand.
I was like, do I? I didnt realise that.
I think I come over as trying to be too perfect and too robotic to other people because of this way of talking.
07 Nov 2020, 9:22 am
hurtloam wrote:
quite an extreme wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ Yes the two articles talk about two common causes of it: age and disability; but AS may cause SI too for instance!
Rather the way you are and they way you act. May be time to change yourself a bit.
He has changed himself. I've seen photos. I'm sick of strangers on the internet saying, "change this, change that, change the next thing".
It's honestly led me to feel very insecure about myself. I feel like I'm always trying to be a better person and that's exhausting. So much so that I've given up striving to be whatever attractive is. I just want to be myself. I don't care if anyone wants me anymore. I'm tired of pleasing other people because I always fail anyway.
But the way we talk, as autistics, I think is a huge turn off to NTs. We're too blunt and factual. They don't connect with us regardless of what body we live in or how modern our hair looks.
I didn't realise that I come over in a very controlled manner until a friend of mine pointed it out recently. English is her second language and she feels like she's often grasping for words or waffling on and beating around the bush. She praises the way I am succinct and use well chosen words in conversation. She finds me easy to understand.
I was like, do I? I didnt realise that.
I think I come over as trying to be too perfect and too robotic to other people because of this way of talking.
Well, that is why I keep on saying, those on the spectrum should stick together.
NTs are inherently programmed differently, due to their neurological configuration.
I find most NTs superficial.
A statement of fact, not criticism, here.
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07 Nov 2020, 4:19 pm
quite an extreme wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ Yes the two articles talk about two common causes of it: age and disability; but AS may cause SI too for instance!
Rather the way you are and they way you act. May be time to change yourself a bit.
Well, I am actually not in the 'game' anymore, I've simply resigned from dating ever since my ex moved; and since the disasters of 2020.
I don't have the energy for it anymore especially with this pandemic AND the financial crush (local currency devaluated 7 times in 2020), I've stopped the activities I used to do like gym and hiking, I am a stick-man again .... how are people still capable to do normal activities and meet new people and dating during this pandemic anyway?
07 Nov 2020, 9:32 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
quite an extreme wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ Yes the two articles talk about two common causes of it: age and disability; but AS may cause SI too for instance!
Rather the way you are and they way you act. May be time to change yourself a bit.
Well, I am actually not in the 'game' anymore, I've simply resigned from dating ever since my ex moved; and since the disasters of 2020.
I don't have the energy for it anymore especially with this pandemic AND the financial crush (local currency devaluated 7 times in 2020), I've stopped the activities I used to do like gym and hiking, I am a stick-man again .... how are people still capable to do normal activities and meet new people and dating during this pandemic anyway?
Sexual invisibility doesn't have to be a bad thing.
Being on the internet can be a perfect place to be "Sexually Invisible", right?
You can focus on a person's character/personality, rather than their looks.
BTW, I think, more often than not, if you get to see your online friend, it is a bit of a letdown because the mind has created some sort of image, already.
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