Chasing after those who don’t care for us!

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Why is it human nature to chase after people who care about us the least?

By chase after I mean go after someone in a romantic way obviously.

Because those who care about us the least may also be the same people whom everybody chases after.  With many, many suitors from which to choose, why should they choose us?

When I first started "chasing" girls, of course I went for only the brightest, prettiest, and most popular girls in school, just like every other adolescent boy out there.  Eventually, I grew up and realized that I was missing out on a lot of beautiful women by going after only the pretty ones.  So I slowed down, looked around, and started a more deliberate pursuit of those whom most other boys thought of as plain and ordinary.  Soon, I was dating around and having some fun between the inevitable break-ups.  Then I met my first wife, and things went well for about a dozen years until she ran off with some other guy.  Then I hit a dry spell and met my current wife (a sweet and pretty Asian woman), and we've been together for over a quarter-century.

Had I kept "chasing" the most popular girls/women, I might still be single.

Something tabboo sounds more fascinating and tempting

If someone tells you not to think about purple elephant , all of a sudden you think about purple elephant

Scarcity

You were not attending my lessons, James.

Because us autistics have a enormous amount of challenges to face day in and day out, and for some uptight pre-madonna or wannabe Fonzie wants to throw us to the gutter because in their eyes we are just some ugly duckling. A defective organism that is incapable of handling their drama ridden lifestyle, but the truth is, can they handle our way of life? Can they handle having obstacles constantly thrown in their way, without quarter? Always having to be the target for reasons never explained. I remember that fear.

They don’t care about us!! !

Owww!
*<— doing the dick move*

Because we’re stupid enough to think with our dicks & hearts instead of our brains.

Chasing others almost never works. I do know some real life success stories, but in general if you have to chase someone they’re not interested or attracted to you. It’s a better approach to make yourself ever more attractive to a broader range of potential partners and attract someone vs trying to chase after anyone. Far too many people never learn or accept this and spend their lives chasing others and frustrating & disappointing themselves over and over again. Stop doing the thing that doesn’t work and try the other thing instead.

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They sometimes say that when a young girl is mean to a boy it is because she likes him. They also say that some women play hard to get. Perhaps some people keep on believing that & thus sometimes assume that others are into them when the others don't act nice or friendly towards them. The women I made a move on were nice & friendly towards me before that which was why I thought there was a chance they might be willing to give me one but they never liked me in that way.

It’s rare and aspies are awkward - much more likely to be perceived as creepy stalkers than persistent suitors. Probably for the best that if someone indicates they’re not interested, even if they don’t say the words but their actions show it, that you leave them be.

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