Soliciting Recommendations/The Perfect PARTY for an Aspie

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NT, here, happily married...Before meeting my beloved (Aspie) husband, i had a great social life...Pre-pandemic, i used to regularly organize social gatherings for friends of all ages...There always seemed to be a perfect excuse...Whether it was a little girls princess party, or a tea-party bridal shower, or a teenagers' graduation, or a little kids Hawaiian Luau summer party, and the list goes on...I was the one to organize it...

I would keep it manageable and affordable at no more than 25 guests...I would serve delicious home-made food depending on the theme of the party...And i made sure to add some form of entertainment...I never served alcoholic beverages...My goal was always to have a great time with family and friends in a healthy manner...The truth of the matter is that i was too busy serving others that i could never enjoy these occasions...Still, i was happy to create these special occasions for others to connect and have a good time...

Now, that i no longer enjoy such favorable circumstances to organize such events--lack the energy due to health issues...And most importantly, now that my focus is my beloved (Aspie) husband's happiness...Please share with me, what is the ideal party for an Aspie from an Aspie's perspective???...Please be very specific and at the same time, feel free to elaborate...All recommendations will be appreciated...Thank you in advance for contributing to this topic...Good night from my lockdown state CA...

Post Script: I hope to apply your feedback post-pandemic if ever circumstances allow for my organizing a party for my beloved (Aspie) husband...

Honestly? A special night with just my SO.

No.one.else.

Just he and i.

I would recomend asking your husband what kind of party if any he would want. I wouldn't really want any party but I know very few people & I'm only close with one person.

Ok, we all agree that for an Aspie, the ideal party is a SOLO PARTY, or accompanied by his or her significant other...Obviously, food and music of his or her choice...Anything else???...

The worst parties for me are surprize ones with lots of people. Is not that I am not greatful to everyone, but it is all too much.

Te best birthday I ever had was the one before last. Brother and his wife took me and my Mum to the beach at a certain place, and it was a windy day and it was cloudy so very few people were around, so I pretty much had the small restauraunt and the beach etc to myself. And rhen we went on the cliffside walk with the views. It was wonderful. I had had a burnout a few months before so I was mask glitching, but I was able to fully unmask and be free. The whole experience was wonderful! And I had the best ice cream I have ever had. (In looks. It was impressive. Even had sprinkles! I think a simple 99 may have the edge on taste). The ice cream cost about three times what I would usually have so I had not really had one quite like that before.
Wow I enjoyed that day! We have a few photos my brothers wife took while we were on the walk. The wind made my and my brothers hair go sideways and in the photo we were leaning towards the edge of the cliff to steady ourselves in the wind as it was so strong.

I think that each person with ASD is different in terms of their preference.
I guess i enjoy the occasional party.

Ideally, a party will be with people who i know and like, or people who are good nature'd, kind and fun loving.
People who don't make nasty, snide or bullish comments.

People who simply like having fun together.
Drinking not essential, although personally i like drinking my fair share.

I personally like music, don't mind if there are quiet a few people, as long as my mind is slowed down with the booze.
I know that some autistic charities held silent disco's, where everyone wears their own blue tooth headphones so that each individual can block out other noise but also set their own volume level.

The only problem with this is that it is hard for members to communicate with each other.
I like cocktails, as well as some types of bar snacks.

A dance floor would be cool for those who want to dance
and perhaps even an area that has a projected film for people to watch when bored

seating areas for people around the dance floor, and around the outskirts perhaps in a quieter area where people can talk perhaps employing sound shielding booths, so that people can talk easy (as people with asd often have problems filtering out noise)

I think the ideal ASD party would also have a sensory room, full of sensory toys for people to play
as well as a super chill out room for people if experiencing a meltdown.

perhaps a nurse who can look after any one who is ill as well as dispense valium for the extra stressed

Perhaps an area that has computer games to play, perhaps several linked consoles
as that would allow geeks to get into gaming if they fail to communicate in any other way

i also think that ASD folk perhaps need some assistance in learning to hook up with potential partners
perhaps a team of people who help them hook up, i think in NT terms people call this a wing man.

Some aspies would probably be happier sitting around a table playing dungeons and dragons or something
or some other game where there is a coherent and logical order as to how the communication flows

some aspies are also epileptic
so avoid discos because of this

hmmm

did any one say Hawaiian beauties with hulu hulu skirts on? like from the Elvis movie
swimming pool and bikini's....lol