Looking to date an aspie woman I know need some help tho..

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Do you like beards and facial hair or does it bring about a bad sensory reaction for aspie women, I get that it varies but that's why I'm curious ... I'm only asking as I have reciently decided to grow a beard just to see what it looks like... I gotta say I like it... but I'm curious if that would be a turn off , in terms of dating due to sensory issues or if your willing to try it or not on a possible partner...

My girlfriend is on the spectrum & sorta dislikes facial hair but it is not due to sensory issues. It is because she had bad experiences with guys who had facial hair when she was little. She would still be with me & love me even if I had a huge beard but she prefers that I don't let the hair get long.

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I know someone else indicated otherwise earlier, but the women's sub-forum really isn't supposed to be a place for men to start threads asking questions. L&D is just fine for this thread.

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I have a short beard and I am married.

My boyfriend has a beard and I like it, he is so attached to his beard it would have been a deal-breaker if I had wanted him to shave it off.

Beards can be dashing. The sensory part depends a lot of what kind of hair and style the guy has and what triggers sensory issues. If a guy's hair is quite coarse and he wears a short, clipped style it can be prickly to snog or snuggle. Other beards can be soft and silky.

It's true some girls prefer clean shaven and some prefer beards (others don't have a preference) but I've never heard any friends say it would be a deal breaker and turn them off from considering someone.

Honestly, I don't think having a beard or not will make or break your success in starting a relationship. Seems like overthinking it.

You could reach a point where you're requested to consider not having a beard though for sensory reasons.

Some of my exes had some lovable beards. I really liked them, they were non groomed, natural. Longer beards are less rough. Shorter more defined/groomed by scissors are more beautiful. Let her make a bear out of it. Shape it as heart for V-Day.

Ask her how she feels about it and what she thinks about it. Show her your beard.

Be confident about your beard though. No one likes a weak-beard

I have low sensory sensitivity. I did not vote in the poll.

Why worry about it now though? If you start having issues in your relationship due to it, you can worry then.