Dating Trend Vocabulary

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One of the latest dating terms is called APOCALYPSING.

Many moments this year have felt like the end of the world, so it makes sense that some singles are searching for their perfect partner like it’s the apocalypse. "Because of COVID, we’re in a scenario where we’re being told to not have human contact and physical touch, and that takes away our ability to have the emotional and physical connections that we as humans require," Forshee told Refinery29. "The more socially isolated we are, the more likely we are to get attached to somebody." What’s more, frequent conversation with a new boo over text or video chat "creates a very false sense of knowing who this person is," the psychologist said – but that isn't always true. "When we know we have things in common with someone, we as humans think: ‘Oh they’re similar to us, we can trust them,'"

CASPERING
Ghosting is what puts a lot of singletons off entering the dating pool with the fear of being given the silent treatment from a date. But just like the animated ghoul, Caspering implies a friendly form of ghosting by giving your match some warning before doing a disappearing act.

FLEABAGGING
Fans of the BBC show will be well aware of Phoebe Waller Bridge’s many (many) dating disasters. And this dating term is for anyone suffering the same fate, with Fleabagging referring to those who consistently pick the wrong men.

GLAMBOOZLING
Most of us will dial up the glamour when it comes to a first date, whether that’s a fresh haircut or perhaps a whole new outfit. But if you’re stood up, or bamboozled, having pulled out all the stops, well you have just been glamboozled my friend.

FLASHPANNING
The first few months of dating are normally referred to as the Honeymoon period, with nothing to muddy the waters. However, inevitably all couples will eventually run into disagreements and while most will muddle through a flashpanner will jump ship as soon as things get tough.

YELLOW CARDING
Like in football producing a yellow card in a relationship is a way of giving your partner a warning. While it’s not quite dumping territory, you’re letting them know that if the behavior continues a red card may come in to play and the match will be over.

EXOSKELETON-ING
If you are approached by a partner’s ex over social media then you have been a victim of an exoskeleton. The term refers to your partner’s skeletons coming out of the cupboard.

CAUSE-PLAYING
For many of us, once a partner becomes an ex they disappear for good, however a cause-player refers to one who messages you out of the blue. But rather than confessing pent up feelings, this ex is looking for a favor from you.

Sources:
How the coronavirus pandemic amplified 'apocalypsing,' a relatable dating trend
‘Fleabagging,’ ‘Glamboozling’ are latest bizarre dating terms

Cause-playing may be the reason why some people ghost their ex-'s.

Or worse still, some ex's primary interest in staying in contact with their ex,
is so that they can sabotage everything in their lives, from romantic interests,
to job offers etc. as well as exploiting them for favours.

In some cases it may even be an extension to cyberstalking, eavesdropping and even physical stalking.

BREAD-CRUMBING
This occurs when you are not super-interested in someone, but continue to lead them on with no intent of following through with a more 'serious' relationship.

BREEZING
Being direct and saying what you want in a relationship. The opposite of following dating "rules" or playing games.

CATFISHING
A situation in which someone assumes a completely fake identity online -- a 50-year old man pretending to be a 17-year old woman, for example.

CUSHIONING
Having a plan B in case your current relationship doesn't work out. Cushioning can be outright cheating on an exclusive partner, or it can be sending flirty texts to multiple people so that if one falls through, you have someone else to turn to for romance.

ENTANGLEMENT
A euphemism for an embarrassing relationship; likely one involving surreptitious explorations of one's "alternate sexuality" while proclaiming membership in a fundamentalist religion.

GATSBY-ING
When you post something -- say, a snapshot of your travels abroad, or a particularly sexy selfie -- just so your crush will see it. In other words, when you "Throw a party on the 'gram".

GHOSTING
Ghosting is exactly what it sounds like: Disappearing without warning after a series of dates or romantic correspondences.

KITTENFISHING
Presenting yourself in an overly positive light on the internet, by lying about your height or posting a photo from when you were a few years younger, for example.  Kittenfishing is not as extreme as catfishing.

LOVINGLY REPECTFUL SPACE
A euphemism of living apart while still committed to each other.

MOPED-ING
Similar to Stashing (See below); involves dating someone who may not be as attractive as you have been telling your friends and relatives.  Derived from an old joke about mopeds (e.g., "... fun to ride, but you would not want your friends to see you on one").

ORBITING
When someone continues to follow you, even after they've ghosted you (See Ghosting).  They'll like your Facebook posts or watch your Instagram stories, for example, but won't say anything.

REBATING
Venmo-ing someone for half of the cost of a first date after learning they're not interested in a second one.

SELF-PARTNERED
A euphemism for 'Single'; one that implies being happily single.

STASHING
Refusing to introduce the person you're dating to friends or family -- sort of like stashing them in a drawer when others are around so that no one else will see them.

SUBMARINING
Jumping back into a relationship or a fling after ghosting. So, basically submarining is ... Zombie-ing (See below).

ZOMBIE-ING
Hitting someone up after a long period of silence (e.g., Returning from the dead).  A form of breadcrumbing (see above).

I would do it the old-fashioned way---if I was eligible for dating. I wouldn't try to be "hip" by stating these terms in conversation.

All this new vocabulary----is just needless slang to me. Though I will study the terms in case they are used on me

I've been single for the last year and I haven't heard of any of these terms. I may be too uncool.

Ghost-marketer:

Someone who acts interested, flirts, and then ghosts you when the time to meet arrives, yet still wants you to promote their work such as music.

Oh, and some advice - if someone is quick to switch to another platform, then the conversation is likely to either end abruptly on the new platform or they want to scam you (or both). If they make a remark about "never really being on this app lol" then they don't really care about meeting someone and are likely just on the app for validation.

The recruiter:

You've matched with this person, but it turns out they aren't actually looking for dates - they want to find new band members for their band or a personal assistant. Suddenly you're in a conversation about hireable skills despite not looking for a job, because this a dating app, not a recruitment centre. There's a business section in Bumble - go there not Tinder.

I get the sense that I have rather strange experiences with online dating.

The where's Wally / Waldo:

Every picture on their profile is a group photo. Which person is it? No one knows.

I’ve realized most of my pics are at least 2-3 years old, would that be kittenfishing?

I simply rarely take photos.

I only knew two of those terms which are Catfishing & Ghosting. I have been in a relationship for the last 8 & a half years thou & have not really been on any dating sites in like 10 years so I have an excuse for living under a rock I like the Breezing term. Being direct and saying what I wanted in a relationship was my approach at trying to get a relationship. I'm sure it is some of why I never had any luck on the many dating sites I tried. NTs & maybe generally more so with NT women than NT men, tend to dislike the direct approach with dating & relationships. Very thankfully my current girlfriend was very direct from the start