Ex ruined me for anyone else

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I broke up with her many years ago but she's still on my mind. It may sound like a weak excuse, but I haven't allowed anyone near me since.

She was one of the only people I could just hang with, and was strong/athletic enough to keep up with my outdoor pursuits, but after the cheating and other nonsense I couldn't deal. Can't trust anyone anymore (in that way), plus her sex drive was so high she ruined me for any other women in more ways than one.

fml

If it’s many years ago, I’m sure your sexual capacity is not reduced by the old flame.

No, but it leads to expectations of how another relationship would go. Sex was one of the things I had no problem with w/her. My problem was communication and being oblivious.

well at least you can get therapy to solve your problems
not as if you are completely ruined

some ex gf's and wives, (of the most immature, sadistic, sociopathic ones)
will literally try to murder their ex's without a reason

some do it because they have this twisted feminism (not like normal feminism)
which is perhaps connected to some occult traditions (or at least pop culture pseudo occult satanism)
where they think they are allowed if not meant to hurt ex's for daring not allowing them to abuse them to death

so if you break up with them, which is what they don't want (as they will no longer be able to control you or subject you to abuse to your face) they will spread vicious slander about you so that no one will ever look at you again

that is what can happen
some woman are in a lot of ways like rapists, in that their intentions are purely to hurt their victims, who can be completely innocent of hurting them intentionally and really do not deserve to be mistreated by such horrible people like this... but that is the twisted logic of people who subscribe to pop culture satanism / occult
... who i believe are very much like rapists in that their intention is to hurt innocent people because you have done something that they do not want, for example, be happy without them, be succeeding in an area of life that they get jealous of, be simply someone who is vulnerable (such as having anxiety, etc).

Yep. such people run different logic to decent normal folk
their actions are often criminal
but they will do what ever they can to conceal their criminal actions
and if possible, try and twist any evidence to make everyone around you think that you are the criminal

although occultism and world view does often have a massive impact as to how people are motivated to commit certain crimes, the police, at least in the UK completely ignore that such morons even exist.

I also think that some members of the police also come from that type of abuser background
and of course have manipulated their way into a position of power and authority that they will abuse
to their advantage and to their victims detriment

such people can also end up working in health care, traffic enforcement, customs, child care, probation, prison officers etc.
any thing they can gain power over innocents to abuse

there are also a lot of decent people working in these areas too
which makes it hard to spot them or weed them out

ex's
which i don't want sex with....
ever again

None of that applies to me. She was just impulsive

Sounds like you’re inadvertantly punishing yourself here. Believe me, I’ve been there. But, there comes a time, to “let it go”, deal, compartmentalize, put that pain in a box, and get on with your life. There are good people out there, and there will be other women who can give you all the things “she” gave you, only better and with loyalty as part of that deal. But, you’ll never find each other, unless you deal with this properly and move on. You’re allowing her to “own” you still. All the best.

I had a crush on someone who was very much like myself in college. He was very nice at first but than he started showing his stripes, 8 months later. A year after, he wrote to me from Edmonton asking if I wanted to be his partner. I was still very hurt by the harsh words that he said to me the year before, so I turned down the offer. I could have had a last name that suits me a lot better than Munro. His last name was Guiltner. I let my Gender Dysphoria get in the way, as well. I've been very suspicious of relationships and intimacy, since the May of 1994.

Read "Don't You Know Who I Am?" by Dr. Ramini Dervasula. This will help.