Jamesy
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29 Dec 2020, 6:32 pm
I have been going out to bars and nightclubs since late 2013 and in those 7 years I have not managed to get a girlfriend or even a one night stand. Don’t get me wrong I have had some opportunities to hook up with women on nights out but in these situations the women expect me to make all the effort.
I am an average looking guy (about a 5 out of 10 in looks) so assuming if I was good looking or handsome enough the chances of me getting a date on a night out would be a lot higher. Back in 2013/2014 I was a little better looking though that I am at the moment......or at least that’s what I assume. 
My parents and a few other people have said to me that if I want to find a relationship I should go online and not go to bars. But do you agree that trying to find a partner online would be just as hard as going out to nightclubs?
29 Dec 2020, 6:56 pm
Jamesy
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Jamesy
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29 Dec 2020, 7:31 pm
Please Google Sisyphus.
Yeah I did look him up. His efforts to push the bolder up the hill were futile
29 Dec 2020, 7:37 pm
29 Dec 2020, 8:32 pm
Wrong - except he matches with an autistic girl who likes him. There are nearly no attractive women at all online who like to date an average guy. Attractive women are approached in real life often enough and don't really need that. But it's even worse. There are at least ten times more guys than women and beside of that are a lot of the 'women' just scammers, fake accounts or profiles with a wrong age and many years old pics, or of girls who want to become influencers elsewhere and you liking them there, or of women who are looking for idiots who like to pay for nothing and of course some truly pervert ones.
It's better to work on yourself and your body language and to join places and clubs beside of bars and to learn to talk to the women there and especially to do eye contact right if you do.
You can try online dating beside of that of course but be carefully with that and don't expect to much.
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Jamesy
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29 Dec 2020, 9:00 pm
I have heard some horror stories about Tinder. 
31 Dec 2020, 6:00 am
31 Dec 2020, 6:26 am
Yes. If it is under 9 inches, it's stupid.
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