I know this sounds shallow, but...

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I'm not attracted to women my own age.

I'm 38, but I generally prefer women who 25-28.

Now, before someone comes in here and says "you know that young women will grow older over time, right?", I would like to point out that there's a difference between someone who grows old with me, and someone who is already old when we meet for the first time. I'm fine with a woman who grows older with me in a relationship, but I need that initial physical attraction to spark something at the start. I settled for my ex out of desperation and was never attracted to her, so I feel a strong desire to make up for what I missed out on when I was younger.

For years I was the same and I worked it out that I had lost about 10 to 20 years of dating time because of prosopragnosia messing up my first date which did not happen.
My first date was when I was around 35 give or take a year.
I too missed out on dating at the crucial age.

It is perfectly OK for a person of your age dating someone in their mid-20s.

I've always preferred guys a lot older than me. My boyfriend is over 20 years older than me. He has kids in their 20s (one is still in his teens). I'm 30.

If homosexuality is so overaccepted these days then why can't large age gaps be?

When I hear about women who are attracted to older men, I think that they generally have in mind is someone who's more mature, has an established career, and probably owns a home. Not some guy who's obese, makes under 40K, rents a room in someone else's house, and collects action figures.

Well... beside just not being that unusual, you're actually more visible closing in on or slightly past forty most often than when you were in your twenties, unless you ran to the front of the pack, was the CEO of a startup, or made money hand over fist somewhere else. Visibility and perception of income and assets are almost identical, not just in dating but in the broader social world.

I don't think it's shallow for autistic people to prefer NT partners to be younger than ourselves as long as we're talking within the normal adult range.

We learn skills like independence later than they do so it's more of an even match.

I'm almost 31 and I'm [not] sorry, but I think it's hilarious that you think women around my age are "old-looking." Are you for real?

Wanting to date women that much younger than you isn't really considered that weird if you're both adults. The only thing I find weird is that you think women in their 30s look "old", I've met women in their 30s that I thought were in the age-range you like? Maybe not late 30s, but early-mid 30s definitely.

As for women wanting older men with those characteristics you mentioned, I think overall NT adults want those characteristics in anyone they date. It's probably just as hard to find a younger woman as an older woman in that regard.

I also agree with KT67, I don't think it's weird for autistic people to want slightly younger partners. I think it's normal to recognize who's on the same social and emotional development level and to be attracted to them.