To het & bi women: Male virgins?

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To het & bi women: How do you feel about a relationship w/ a male virgin?
I prefer a virgin, for religious reasons. 5%  5%  [ 1 ]
I prefer a virgin, for non-religious reasons. 5%  5%  [ 1 ]
I don't care either way. 84%  84%  [ 16 ]
I prefer a non-virgin, but virginity is not a deal-breaker. 5%  5%  [ 1 ]
I strongly prefer a non-virgin. 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Total votes : 19

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16 Feb 2021, 12:20 am

To het & bi women: How would you feel about a relationship w/ a male virgin? (Assume the man is otherwise your kind of guy.)

Please answer only if you are a heterosexual or bisexual woman.

After a few days I'll announce the results thus far, so that the people who aren't supposed to answer this poll can see them.


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16 Feb 2021, 12:21 am

Not participating in the poll, but do men have virginity? I understand the concept, but for practical mechanical purposes, is it even a real thing?



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16 Feb 2021, 12:25 am

A man is a virgin if he hasn’t had penile/vaginal with a woman....or penile/anal intercourse with a man.



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16 Feb 2021, 12:27 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
A man is a virgin if he hasn’t had penile/vaginal with a woman....or penile/anal intercourse with a man.

Yeah, but... What changes? If the man had passed out, would he even realize he's no longer a virgin?



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16 Feb 2021, 1:01 am

Nothing changes physically for the man (unless he refuses to wear a condom and, thereby, catches a disease).

But he gains (at least one) experience. And, for many people, that's a big deal, in and of itself.


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16 Feb 2021, 5:24 am

When I lost my virginity, nothing changed. I remained a schmuck 17-year-old.

It was nice and all that—but no epiphanies came my way.



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16 Feb 2021, 6:15 am

r00tb33r wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
A man is a virgin if he hasn’t had penile/vaginal with a woman....or penile/anal intercourse with a man.

Yeah, but... What changes? If the man had passed out, would he even realize he's no longer a virgin?



What do you think changes in a woman?

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The most common myth around the hymen is that it remains “intact” until it’s broken during vaginal penetration, which renders it a physical marker of virginity. Though there are many instances where women do experience a small amount of bleeding from hymenal tearing at first intercourse, this is by no means a universal experience, as there are many women who have very little tissue there in the first place.

Another common myth is that the hymen is rigid and penetrable. The tissue is actually stretchy and flexible, which means it does not necessarily tear with penetration. In many cases, some tearing or stretching occurs over time from tampons, gynecological exams or vigorous exercise.

Because of these factors, it’s impossible to tell by examining a woman if she’s a virgin.



https://wexnermedical.osu.edu/blog/myths-and-facts-about-hymen#:~:text=For%20others%2C%20it's%20a%20membrane,a%20physical%20marker%20of%20virginity.



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16 Feb 2021, 7:08 am

I only “deflowered” one Virgin.

There was pain and bleeding at first....but then it became a nice experience for her.

She became euphoric that she lost her virginity. I can’t say that losing it with ME superseded the generalized delight.



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16 Feb 2021, 1:30 pm

When I married at 19yrs, my husband was a virgin, and Aspergers. He was a Christian, but unfortunately, I learned the hard way, that he had no sense of loyalty and left me questioning if it’s at all possible for any man to be devoted to only one woman. I was told that to have not “saved myself” for him, meant he did not respect me. I had been in a long-term very happy, loving relationship prior. I had no idea just how badly I had chosen, but foolishly stayed far too long. Whether or not someone is a virgin matters far less than the nature of their heart and behaviour toward the person they choose to be with.

You fall for someone’s soul, not for their body or looks. Once you love their soul, everything about that body becomes beautiful.



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16 Feb 2021, 1:36 pm

I think as there are different types of people or perhaps varying degrees.

Some are more fleshly.
Some are loyal.
Some are perhaps more likely to jump ship as soon as they think they can "upgrade" to a better circumstance,
whether that circumstance is financial or to do with looks / sex etc.

I guess part of finding a suitable mate is finding the one that is suitable for you.
But I guess certain grounds need to be present in order for a relationship to be realized and maintained.



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16 Feb 2021, 4:11 pm

r00tb33r wrote:
Not participating in the poll, but do men have virginity? I understand the concept, but for practical mechanical purposes, is it even a real thing?


Virginity is an imagined social construct, not a real thing. Neither men not women possess virginity in actuality.

In most Islamic cultures for instance, there is no concept of male virginity. In Western culture, both men and women are considered virgins until they have sexual intercourse.

There are differing opinions on whether or not a woman is still a virgin if her hymen is ruptured by means other than intercourse; like being damaged by a bicycle seat, for instance. In Saudi Arabia, unmarried women can be subjected to examinations by doctors to determine if they are virgins. Historically, it was heavily debated by Christian theologians whether or not Mary retained her status as a virgin when Jesus was born.

While the concept of virginity has no basis in actual biology, it has strong cultural implications that vary from culture to culture. In the Western World, men can be considered virgins. And being a virgin is synonymous with being a loser. This often causes psychological distress to virgin men. For women, how people interpret virginity ranges between purity and innocence to being a prune, depending on who you ask.



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16 Feb 2021, 8:55 pm

dorkseid wrote:
In the Western World, men can be considered virgins. And being a virgin is synonymous with being a loser.

So far it appears that autistic women don't tend have a problem with a man being a virgin. So far there have been 9 answers to the poll, all of them "I don't care either way."


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16 Feb 2021, 8:59 pm

If one cares whether or not you're a virgin, they're not worth your time, anyway.

That's high school stuff!



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17 Feb 2021, 12:36 am

I think that sex is a special gift that should be saved for marriage.


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17 Feb 2021, 12:51 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
I think that sex is a special gift that should be saved for marriage.

If that works for you, great. Most people who believe this are religious, however, whereas dorkseid is an atheist and wants a nonreligious partner. This thread was created in response to dorkseid's belief that no otherwise-compatiable woman would ever want him because he's inexperienced.

Anyhow, we how have 10 votes for "I don't care either way" and 1 vote for "I prefer a virgin, for religious reasons."


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17 Feb 2021, 1:06 am

Well, I'm not a virgin. But it was just one time 10 years ago.