ex partners cyber stalking, could you forgive?

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if you found out that any (or all) of your ex partners
were involved in cyber stalking / eavesdropping on you
with people who were involved in stalking you in order to
hurt you, to ridicule you, to steal from you and to gas light you

could you trust these ex-partners ever again?
or would you think they are complete a holes
and never want to see them again

I'd charge them with harassment, and file a restraining order.

I don't mess around with shite like that.

People need an incentive to just "get a life."

A legal incentive-----with consequences if they don't "get a life."

Forgiveness is essential to healing and I am the best.

Besides that doesn't include letting them in or trusting them again.

I would view them as worms, because bad apples are better.

I would always know worms can rise based on behavior, but honestly that's their business if they do. Second chances are bad for a worm's growth.

I rule with an iron fish and they love worms. I owe nothing to worms, they owe me more than they can pay.

How would you define cyber stalking madbutnotmad Some people consider following somebody's public online presence to be a form of cyber stalking. For example checking the social media your ex uses can be considered cyber stalking by some people's definitions. There doesn't have to be any ill-intentions. I've been guilty of that kinda stuff after both my breakups but I was not contacting them or telling anybody else about their business.

Following an online presence is different from what he's described above ^.

Depends...

Put do you have proof they were working together? If it was based on recent thiings you posted online then most people have access to that surely? I generally don't trust exs as they normally would have lost all my trust to begin with.

I would forgive (for myself) and forget. At that point they wouldn't be worth any of my energy or attention so I would cut all forms of communication with them as well. I've tried making friends online and it hasn't ended well.

↑ This is the only sensible course of action, provided you have real evidence (not mere suspicion) to prove their alleged stalking.

Totally agree, its why it's pointless for me to friend exes besides the fact that it's dangerous because we can get back together.
Also I think it's cruel to have the same person as not what they used to be anymore.

Last edited by Rexi on 20 Mar 2021, 10:55 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Depends on the reason why you separated.

I would file claims against them as the law allows, and utterly break connections with them. What a disgusting act.

If they're one of my ex's I stopped trusting them already. For them to then engage in something like that is insult to injury.

How I would handle it would depend on the degree of what was going on. I did have an ex who kind of did some of this but the situation was pretty harmless to me, just annoying. I'd say he ended up hurting himself more.

Not for me. There's a certain point where emotions take over.

Of course not.


Certainly.

Unlike some people in this thread, though, I have NOT felt that way about ex-partners in general.

Among the erotic relationships I had when I was in my twenties and thirties, usually either things just fizzled out or we mutually decided we weren't compatible; no hard feelings. It helped a lot that I also had several very close friends. Indeed my circle of friends was more important to me than any erotic/romantic relationship.

Being bisexual and in touch with the LGBTQ+ community helped also. Among lesbians back then (I'm not sure if this is still true), it was commonplace to remain close friends with ex-partners. Indeed many lesbians had an alternative extended family made up of ex-partners.