Men Are Much More Friendly To Me Compared To Women.

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This is something that I have noticed throughout the years. As a male, I have noticed that men are usually much more friendly and talkative towards me compared to women. When I am out in a group setting, men are much more likely to initiate a conversation with me, even if I don't know them too well. If I am by myself, men will often come and talk to me or at least say hi to me, even if I barely know who they are. It's easy to meet guys because they will come talk to you and do the initial work for you.

As for women, it is the opposite. They will rarely ever approach me or say hi to me, even if I am in the same social group as them. When I am nearby, they don't say hi to me or even acknowledge my existence, it's like I am completely invisible to them. This is not the case for all women though; older women are usually more friendly and receptive towards me and say hi to me, even if they have met me once.


Why is it that men are more friendly towards me compared to women?

I'm not sure why, and I actually have the exact opposite experience. I was only bullied by fellow boys growing up. There's a lot of macho posturing in male spaces that I hate and just from my own personal experience I've just had more negative experiences around men. I find women a lot easier to talk to, I generally feel a little more on guard around men. Maybe this is due to some internalized sexist attitude that women are inherently less threatening.

Are you gay?

If you're a gay male, women may see you as less threatening because they don't think you're trying to get with them.

There's not much of a difference in my experience. And I'm straight.

No, I can look at some men and go "oh, they're attractive to others," but I've never found guys attractive.

I think that a lot of younger girls may find aspie guys "creepy"

That may be true. If a guy is socially awkward when interacting with a girl, she may perceive him as "creepy", especially if the guy isn't attractive. Hot guys can probably get away with a little more.

Back when I was living in the dorms, I met this girl in a cafeteria who later became my friend. When we first met, it was at a cafeteria dorm and she invited me to come sit by her. It was me, her, her friend, and some other random guy she didn't know who sat at their table. Anyways, I came off as normal and confident enough when I was talking to her that she straight up gave me her Snapchat information and we exchanged information. As for the other guy, from what I remember, he was quiet and socially awkward and awkwardly asked for her Snapchat information. Later, she mentioned this guy in a conversation and how she straight up blocked him because he was "creepy".


Come to think about it, when I lived in the dorms, I heard all sorts of stories from girls who got unwanted attention from men, or about guys who desperately wanted to be with them. One girl talked about how when she rejected a guy, he wouldn't take no for an answer and how he kept blowing up her phone begging to be with her. Everybody was talking massive crap about him, calling him ugly and a creep and he should kill himself. I'm 95% sure this guy was on the autism spectrum by the way. That's when I learned that girls will talk massive crap about you behind your back if you weird them out, so you have to be careful with doing anything out of the ordinary.

Women are usually nicer to me, especially if they are older.  Asian women are the nicest to me, no matter what age.

Niceness (and politeness) is part of the East Asian cultures. Men and women alike.

Definitely between each other, but not so much with us "foreigners" ... although I was very pleasantly surprised (shocked, almost) by how well the sales people treated me at the Greenbelt mall in Manila.

Constantly contacting someone after they tell you "no" is kind of a red flag. Though saying he should kill himself is taking it too far. I think we're forgetting that women do have to put up with a lot more sexual abuse from the opposite sex than men do. It's only natural that they might have a more sensitive "creep" detector.

Women are very nice to me. They're such Sweet Peas. Men on the other hand, walk right on by or they laugh at me.