Dating Bootcamp

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I was watching a youtube video about Landmark College which has extra support for students on the spectrum.
A representative from the school said that the "Dating Bootcamp" class/seminar they offered was a very popular item and very well attended.

If you feel you have figured out dating what would you teach in a "Dating Bootcamp" class?

If you feel you have NOT figured out dating what would you want to learn / what questions would you want answered in a "Dating Bootcamp" class?

I think autistics should avoid all kinds of dating advice and education as it will do far more damage than good. IMHO, the best way to figure out how to get into worthwhile relationships is to be natural, learn how your own preferences work and go with them rather than taking the advice of others that basically have no idea how your preferences operate. And you can be sure that you are not alone with your preferences since you are not the only individual in the world that has autistic traits.

The fact that an actual college is backing this is a good sign.

With dating advice and seminars, there is typically some risk that the program might be some sleazy pick-up artist or some gimmicky self-help guru stuff. But a college backing it offers some guarantee of quality.

The book "Dating For Dummies"
https://www.wiley.com/en-us/Dating+For+ ... 1118013618
has this in the table of contents

Part I: The Starring Roles: Who Am I and Whom Do I Want?

Chapter 1: Thoroughly Modern Dating.

Chapter 2: Being Confident.

Chapter 3: Polishing Your Social Self.

Chapter 4: Finding Out What Makes You Tick.

Chapter 5: The Perfect Date: Person and Place.

Part II: Setting Up the Date.

Chapter 6: Asking for a Date.

Chapter 7: Plotting the Perfect (Sorta) First Date.

Part III: The Big Day: Preparation and Action.

Chapter 8: Getting Your Outside Ready.

Chapter 9: Getting Your Inside Ready.

Chapter 10: Impressions: First and Lasting.

Chapter 11: Having a Way Cool Time.

Chapter 12: Not Having a Way Cool Time.

Part IV: The Day After and Beyond.

Chapter 13: The Next Day.

Chapter 14: The Second Date.

Chapter 15: To Blab or Not to Blab: Sharing Personal Info.

Chapter 16: Speed Bumps on Life's Highway.

Chapter 17: Getting to Serious.

Chapter 18: Breaking Up.

Chapter 19: Rebound.

Part V: Playing It Safe and Keeping It Fresh.

Chapter 20: Safety First.

Chapter 21: Dating Sight Unseen.

Chapter 22: Keeping It Fresh, Alive, and Healthy.

The book Flirting for Dummies
https://www.wiley.com/en-us/Flirting+Fo ... 0470742594
has this in the table of contents

Getting to Grips with Flirting Basics

1 Dishing the Flirt

2 Identifying Your Flirting Style

3 Grasping the Gender Gap

4 Flirting with Dates, Friends, and Colleagues

Get Noticed! Making Contact

5 Boosting Self Confidence

6 Spotting Who's Available

7 Making an Entrance

8 Making Conversation with Absolutely Anybody

9 Being Interesting and Interested

Developing Killer Rapport with Body Language

10 Giving Off the Right Signals

11 Letting Your Body Do the Talking

12 Reading Secret Flirting Signals

Taking the Next Step

13 Making the Next Move

14 Taking Things Further

15 Reducing the Risk of Rejection

This is an article on making friends for Autistic Adults:

Making Friends Made Easy: Tips for Autistic Adults ...
https://www.autismgrownup.com/blog/maki ... tic-adults

1 What are your goals related to friends (making more friends, different kinds of friends, etc.)

1b Where are you now with reaching these goals?

2 Where are you interested in meeting people? (online, in-person, hybrid)

3 What are your special interests?

3b Can they be tied in with a common interest group?