Gahhhhhhhhh!

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Starting a couple weeks or so ago I decided to give bumble another try. And also this other dating app called hinge. The both of those have only led to one brief conversation with someone who of course ghosted me. What is the point of spending so much time swiping right on people when there’s a solid chance not one of them will respond, let alone going on a date with them. I’m sick and tired of not getting anywhere on dating apps and if there’s anyway I can do something to turn my fortunes around whatever that is seems so vague.

News flash: everybody hates the dating sites - men and women, for all kinds of reasons. It is really tough, ghosting is a big thing and prevalent, you must come to expect it. I felt really bad the first couple times I was ghosted, by a woman I actually met on Facebook and then dated, and by a woman that I contacted on Facebook, and that spoke with me over the phone for two hours. It's terrible, you wonder why, your mind plays all kinds of games analyzing the situation.

Bumble I tried - no luck after one week, so I deleted my account. Maybe I should have stayed on? I don't know. It seems like it is mainly about the cover photo, swipe-right culture. I don't look bad, but hey, I am no movie star and I know that.

I know a Sage of the Ages who has been a successful dater with many women. He is learned and advanced in all the ways and wiles of dating...

A thorough neurotypical socialite...

His advice--? Chill.

He said, just make your profile, log in once a month to keep your profile active, but do not spend all your time contacting women, swiping right and so on. Women's In-Boxes get filled up with messages from men, like hundreds of messages... you think they will even find yours, read that elaborate intro you composed? Because apparently, a lot of men spend all day long swiping right... including the type of men that send women dick pics and behave poorly.

So, you made your profile on Bumble. Check. Very good. Leave it alone, chill. If a woman contacts you, then write back, but you must try not to develop any expectations or false hopes, just be like, "Oh, nice, well let's see whether this lasts or not...it probably won't, but I will be polite and friendly and just hope for the best."

Can you do that? I know it's hard as hell for me... I paid for a 6 mo. membership on OKCupid, then deleted my profile with two months remaining!

Also, the advice is to make a profile on several dating sites, so as to cast a long net... so go ahead, leave that Hinge profile up... but do not spend all day on those things, no, not even an hour at a time... that's the advice of the online dating Sage of whom I speak. If you can accept his august Wisdom, you will be better off...

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