How to attract women despite you have Aspergers
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I attracted that rich man in Selfridges a few years back when I was lost, heartbroken and didn't want anyone else. I had great competition too.
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Today's online dating scene, with its emphasis on photos, intrinsically is extremely looks-oriented, it seems to me.
So it seems to me that what's needed here is social activities that aren't just social clubs. What's needed is activities where the main focus of interaction is something other than just the other people. This makes the initial getting-to-know-each-other process much less awkward, it seems to me.
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reminds me of a video of a dating coach, i thought he hit the nail right on the head on how men and women deal with different things in regards to dating/relationships, etc. He said that for guys, men, the main or biggest hurdle, burden, is building the attraction, mens dating advice revolves entirely how to get a women attracted to you, sparking or igniting the attraction.
For women, its how to keep a guy or have him stay committed to her, or how to not get used by a guy.
True. Men are expected to chase, and take risks.
True. But the feeling of being used , usually comes after the fact. Funny how, they didn't feel used at first? just like men, women get involved in something THEY WANT and ENJOY. In the end who's really used who? the one who has the most hurt feelings? It can be hard to determine, hard to be objective.
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True. Men are expected to chase, and take risks.
True. But the feeling of being used , usually comes after the fact. Funny how, they didn't feel used at first? just like men, women get involved in something THEY WANT and ENJOY. In the end who's really used who?
thats why i like to view it in this perspective, its only guys, men, who need to know or learn how to attract women, not the other way around, a woman doesn't need to know or learn how to attract a guy or to get a date or get a boyfriend.
False.
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False.
how or why so when women don't have to court men or make the first move, ask them out first or initiate anything?
Some women will stalk court a guy, so to speak. if the guy isn't interested, or doesn't make any move on them, some women might not take no for answer, wait for opportunities, if they've set their sights on somebody. Women have better instincts on all this. They learn early and fast how to attract. NT women that is. Maybe not autistic women.
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False.
how or why so when women don't have to court men or make the first move, ask them out first or initiate anything?
Some women will stalk court a guy, so to speak. if the guy isn't interested, or doesn't make any move on them, some women might not take no for answer, wait for opportunities, if they've set their sights on somebody. Women have better instincts on all this. They learn early and fast how to attract. NT women that is. Maybe not autistic women.
but theres no denying the fact those women have always been and always will be in the extreme minority, i highly doubt it will ever become more women for women to make the first move on a guy, such as starting a conversation with him first or asking him out first, being the one to initiate the relationship.
It's not a minority of women that stalk. In fact, I reckon it is their nature as social creatures. Women are extremely competitive socially, way more than men.
Social media facilitates this stalking. NT's do it, Autistics do it, everyone does it.
They'll let you know they are doing it without incriminating themselves.
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Social media facilitates this stalking. NT's do it, Autistics do it, everyone does it.
They'll let you know they are doing it without incriminating themselves.
well how often do women ask guys out or be the ones to bluntly express interest in a guy first? that still normally doesn't happen
Social media facilitates this stalking. NT's do it, Autistics do it, everyone does it.
They'll let you know they are doing it without incriminating themselves.
well how often do women ask guys out or be the ones to bluntly express interest in a guy first? that still normally doesn't happen
That's the point. They creep on you to let you know they are interested. That has been my experience as a biological male, anyway.
Like you say, they don't do it directly.
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Social media facilitates this stalking. NT's do it, Autistics do it, everyone does it.
They'll let you know they are doing it without incriminating themselves.
well how often do women ask guys out or be the ones to bluntly express interest in a guy first? that still normally doesn't happen
That's the point. They creep on you to let you know they are interested. That has been my experience as a biological male, anyway.
Like you say, they don't do it directly.
well tons of guys are oblivious to when women do that
Social media facilitates this stalking. NT's do it, Autistics do it, everyone does it.
They'll let you know they are doing it without incriminating themselves.
well how often do women ask guys out or be the ones to bluntly express interest in a guy first? that still normally doesn't happen
That's the point. They creep on you to let you know they are interested. That has been my experience as a biological male, anyway.
Like you say, they don't do it directly.
well tons of guys are oblivious to when women do that
Yeah, they don't know. I remember when my former, 'liked' playlist on Youtube was on a few thousand views & my channel had 13,000 views even though I didn't put anything on there.
I usually have an inkling something weird is going on.
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