How to attract women despite you have Aspergers

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Yes it's true women can be competitive with other women. And it's true men can be oblivious. It would be cool, if everybody could be more direct, but that's just the way it is. If person is interested in somebody sometimes it can hard to spot, unless they physically throw themselves at you, or point blank tell you, what they are thinking. And if you're unsure on what a person thinks, nobody wants to lose face in such a situation, and risk being rejected.

I don't really care about 'face' in such situations, if I like someone I generally tell them in various ways, whether directly or indirectly, i.e, complimenting them on a forum etc. I don't really trust biological females based on past experiences. They can be unreliable. They'll flirt, then you land in their inbox and they'll be like "who are you" or "hey, creeper".

If i'm walking down the street, and a girl smiles at me, is it a "cordial polite greeting" smile , or a "i really like what i'm seeing" smile. I'd like to be able to tell the difference . But I can't. And It's so easy to imagine one way or the other.

Are you talking about real life women or online women in a figurative sense?

Real life woman. "If i'm walking down the street...."

I tried dating websites and sent messages. I got nothing , but views. So I quit. Is it just me or are these websites becoming more of a waste of time and money.


The girl I am looking for is one that likes to wear strapless dresses and tops, doesn’t mind getting dolled up for a romantic candlelight dinner at home, likes to dance, and is also bubbly, a little wild and free, where I feel tammed , programmed and robotic.

ya i'm not afraid to admit i sometimes have hated having been born male over the years due to how i feel men are dealt with the burden of building the attraction

How do you work this out from an online profile? This type of profile is also probably looking a man with similar qualities.

All I do is hope. The only thing I can do.

I have only dated/slept with two NT's and they were just randomers. NT's can be nice in a lot of ways but they are also 'stupid' in a lof of ways too & they don't understand Autistic people at all for the most part as a demographic, so it is difficult to be in a relationship with an NT for Autistic folk.

Most of the time they just see you as broken or weird & they don't even have to say anything and you already know that by the way they treat you.

I haven't been in any kind of 'serious' relationship with an NT & I don't expect to be.

I think relationships are a two way street. You can't blame all NTs for not being prepared to put up with "weird" when they have no frame of reference,

Read some the NT posts on WP about how to deal with their Aspie partner's behavior. A lot of NTs entering into a relationship with an Aspie sincerely want the relationship to work because they love their partner and want what's best for them.

i never liked it but why does it seem that for guys, men, it is mostly social behavior based or social skills based it seems

You also need to look at it from the options a girl has. The moment the girl has options then "weird" goes to the bottom of the list.

^ Yeah , I can only imagine the psycho vibes i give off. NT know when somebody is weird. They soon figure somethings 'off' about you.

Yeah, I wonder what strategies aspie guys can use to suppress any compulsive urges? probably easier said than done. Even us NTs do unconscious things we aren't aware of like leg shaking.

It worked for Elvis Presley or Elvis the pelvis as they called him.