I declared myself to be loveless

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Every single girl lies, lied, bullsh*ting me, sick jokes and blame on me. They arent my chances! I can't get a proper life to get along with natural development of relationships. I am a complete lonely person who doesnt have fun with them. I am only 16 and doesnt count on that thank you. I do not want to see this REAL DISADANTAGES at university in 2009. If i see it, i probarly ended up with hell devil.

All of my qualities are advantage and i am looking towards to my career in the future during university and eventually. I can't get with this crappiest life. How come i am? Why this is happening to me? I am in middle of awesome development of making friends and social activities including the bullies at school are limited off and gone forever. I am currently in senior high school. I am in middle of development of my ability. I wanted to see something better before i get to university otherwise i ended up in same boat.

What is wrong with me? I don't see anything i done something bad. I can find a right one, how i suppose to know if theres a right one? Seriously God isn't real because how he do something while he is dead? I disagreed with beliefs of my christianly. Its crappy and lies. It seems i be in same boat for VERY LONG time or even forever. How i suppose to get into with a girl while my counselling for over couple times with Dr Underwood? I am very dreadful about this. Apsergers is a hitn of bad life ahead. I am pleased of that i am trying to get out of bad ways. But i am already there but the relationships are far worse. It's only one bad thing in my list. And rest of the qualities r like zillions! I just don't know what is happening?

Ridcously i am in middle of worse life apart my studies and towards my best things in the future such as university courses lend me to get a great job that i am interested in. I am the one who have been in middle of FECKING S**T that doesn't understand anyone. I want to cure out aspergers otherwise i die instead. Believe me.

Hello? Anyone? You all getting me depressed and death.

I know that pain of hopelessness and people jerking you around
I have been there and afraid to get back into the socialising game myself
I know how you feel

i have never been in love and i am almost 28... i am open to believe that i am not able to fall in love... you are only 16, you have time...

It gets better, trust me, there are decent girls out there and someday you'll meet her. Until then work on your social skills so that when she does walk into your life you'll be ready.

Ed Almos

Believe it or not, most young people are looking for fun and nothing serious. This does not justify the lies, BS or the blame on you at all by the way. But you have your whole life ahead of you, what do you want to worry about those lying b*****s for? I know what you're talking about as I felt exactly like you do when I was your age.



Focus on this career path you have. I think you will enjoy university. It did me a lot of good because, before that, I was also lonely and had hardly any friends. At university, they tend to be more friendly/forgiving towards people that are different as people are more mature. Most of my good friends have come from my time at university, it made me more confident and brought me out of myself. Most people you will probably meet in your accommodation or classes ,then you will meet others through that and so on. Plus, focus on the fact that you are developing friendships and social activities. Don't let what you feel you haven't achieved/got yet quash your confidence, otherwise you will find achieving things more of a struggle than it need be.



There is nothing wrong with you. Forget all the Christianity stuff, it never worked for me either. LIke I say, wait until you get to uni, or take things one at a time because you want to increase your confidence, not reduce it. You may meet a girl in a couple of months, it may be next year, it doesn't matter. If you are sorted/clued up in life and you have confidence (natural, not pretend), you will project this and you may not feel the need to have a girlfriend because of it. Then you may stop looking and you may get noticed. I have always found that when I'm not looking, I get noticed because you behave differently (i.e. not pining for a partner).



I found being an aspie hard as well when I was young as I didn't understand why it had to be me that was different, that no-one wanted to talk to, that no-one wanted to go out with etc. Children and teenagers can be really cruel can't they? But just keep your head down, do really well in your studies, go away and study for your future and get yourself something that the other self-obsessed socialites won't get - a career they want. You get that, you will end up mixing with people who have similar interests as you. Trust me, I think you will find university and whatever comes after a real blast, you just have to allow it to happen.

Oh no!
I know how you feel man.
College will get better, there are more decent girls than promiscous ones.
Instead of going to them, let them come to you.

If you fall in love, you won't be able to do anything about it. You might as well have declared yourself the King of Mars.

You're 16. Come back when you're well into your 20's, then we will have more to discuss.

hmmm, im almost 25, so we have something to discuss, heh

well i dont feel loveless, i just fear ill die alone, but to be honest im not putting 100% into finding her, partly because i cant stand the thought of leaving the confort zone and partly because im afraid of the initial conversation, heh.

Someday tho, firstly i need to fix some things in my life, prepair, plan, focus. When the time is right, i hope we all find what we r lookin 4

Fiz is right.

Probably because they are the only people he feels he has to choose from as companions.

There have been a few times in my life where I've realized that I had two choices:

1.) accept the friendships of people I knew were bad for me, or

2.) be alone / socially isolated.

Most people, especially the young, have a very difficult time with 2 even when it really is the best option.

Me too - when I was 16, I kept wondering what was wrong with me that no boys seemed to like me. I thought I was ugly and stupid and with no personality. It drove mum nuts after a while. Now I look back and think I wasn't ugly and dumb and did have personality but it needed the right person to bring out the better points. Unfortunately, young teenagers are often encouraged to be shallow and casual.

My experience (and I've lived in several different cultures) is that if a man doesn't hit on girls, everyone assumes he's not interested, and in the vast majorit of cases the man does the hitting on, not the woman. So I don't think this is good advice.

I did thought of that! So this is real serious issue for me. Not gonna work in both ways. ><

Yeah. Unless you have some outstanding reason
to attract them. I get hit on by three or four women
a night, when I dance.