Attitude toward caucasian men with non-caucasian women

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Whenever a caucasian woman learns about a man with non-caucasian girlfriend -or- knows about his relationship history which is almost exclusively with non-caucasian women, I encounter one or a combination of the following ret*d assumptions, which none of them is even slightly true (and yes this man happens to be me), assumptions which are often offensive to both the man and the lady he’s with:
- These women are “easy” and “obedient”
- The man has a “yellow fever” (specific if the partner is east Asian), and sexualize these women only for that.
- The women in question are after material gains.
- The man is unable to get a partner of his own (caucasian) race.

Perhaps only the latest point could be somehow true as I will explain below in my counter argument for each point:
- None of them were easy nor obedient. That’s a stereotypical racist assumption. Period.
- Even if that’s true, it is not an evil thing, “White fever” is also a very common thing in Asian cultures and they often find caucasian features attractive. It is a two ways thing.
- All the women I had been with was for fun time and not for marriage or anything like that, and this was mutually agreed. There was no wealth exchange of any sort (and gifts were/are mutual, dating costs too).
- Oh Hello?! Perhaps if some of you found these men attractive they would certainly have a more « ethnically diversified » relationship history including women of their own community/ethnicity, but you don’t, and you never did. You find them uglier or lesser compared to other men.
These men in return are not gonna wait you forever until they die virgins in a futile attempt to attract you, they will just seek in different demographics who happen to find them attractive.

My wife is black.

She certainly doesn't have a "white fetish." Until me, she really didn't care for white men at all.

i sure wish black women found me attractive. they are my fave.

^You should go after Rae Dawn Chong

Heh.  Been there.  My wife is a Filipina .

Only after word got out that we were dating did any women of my race show any interest in me.  After we were married, I had to forcibly let a few a-holes know how I felt about my wife being referred to as a "War Bride", "Mail-Order Bride", or some other racist slur.

I think that those outside of one's own nationality tend to be most physically attractive.

That said I have been known to be attracted to men of my own nationality as well.

But if we were speaking purely looks (like a photo) I tend to gravitate towards the exotic (who look least like myself).

All of that said, I think calculating race into the equation is stupid. Beautiful people exist in all groups.

And anyone who feels the need to belittle your partner needs to go far far away

My lovely Philippine wife impresses me with her intelligence, her education, and her unwavering devotion to God.

The Irish-American woman I was married to before had/has all the moral integrity of a feral alley cat in estrus.

Nuff said.

I would never “belittle” my partner.

The fact that my wife is black had nothing to do with why I married her.

One time, a young woman wanted to find out how a white man feels in bed. She picked me to find out. I fell in love with her. She found out white men felt the same as black men—and dropped me like a hot potato.

I’m not bitter because of this. She just wanted to explore; she was curious. Didn’t do me any good, though. But that’s life.

It's sad we've progressed all the way to 2022 and interracial relationships are still subject to these prejudices.

I've spent most of my time in social circles with a distinct international flavor, so these things were never an issue or something expressed wherever I and my wife went. You're dating/married to an individual, not a race. If race is an issue to other people, it shows their lack of awareness and bigotry rather than anything you two did wrong.

It wasn't until I explored the issue over the Internet that I discovered that some hold these opinions. No-one has ever dared to say it to me in person. Any person who would judge me or my wife in these ways is not worth a shred of my attention.