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18 Mar 2022, 5:06 pm

Are All Relationships Complicated & Awful?



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18 Mar 2022, 6:05 pm

No. Some are and some aren't. Why do you ask?


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19 Mar 2022, 2:50 am

I'm sure I would find any romantic relationship complicated & awful at times but in a decent relationship I'm sure the good things & times would outweigh the bad like they do in my current relationship. Any relationship can have some rough patches & it takes commitment & willingness to try to hear each other out & compromise to make things better for both of you. Like most anything in life there is a downside/badside because nothing & noone is perfect. You analyze the pros & cons & try to make the best choice you can & hope it'll be good.


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19 Mar 2022, 2:58 am

It depends on if you're willing to put in the effort to make them complicated and awful. I know I have.



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19 Mar 2022, 1:39 pm

HighLlama wrote:
It depends on if you're willing to put in the effort to make them complicated and awful. I know I have.


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Put in the effort to make them NOT complicated and awful?



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19 Mar 2022, 1:41 pm

nick007 wrote:
I'm sure I would find any romantic relationship complicated & awful at times but in a decent relationship I'm sure the good things & times would outweigh the bad like they do in my current relationship. Any relationship can have some rough patches & it takes commitment & willingness to try to hear each other out & compromise to make things better for both of you. Like most anything in life there is a downside/badside because nothing & noone is perfect. You analyze the pros & cons & try to make the best choice you can & hope it'll be good.


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I think my exceptions are no downside/badside and everything to be perfect



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19 Mar 2022, 1:42 pm

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
No. Some are and some aren't. Why do you ask?


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Should I expect a relationship to not be complicated & awful and leave if it is?



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19 Mar 2022, 8:36 pm

Expect relationships to be complicated. Otherwise, they are as awful as YOU make them.



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19 Mar 2022, 8:56 pm

TB_TB_TB_TB_TB_TB wrote:
Are All Relationships Complicated & Awful?

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Yes. 8)

For me, at least.
I avoid all significant other relationships.
But then, I am old and wise. :mrgreen:



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20 Mar 2022, 3:13 am

TB_TB_TB_TB_TB_TB wrote:
HighLlama wrote:
It depends on if you're willing to put in the effort to make them complicated and awful. I know I have.


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Put in the effort to make them NOT complicated and awful?


I was being a little ironic. I've been in complicated, awful relationships. Part of that was my own bad choices.



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28 Mar 2022, 7:39 am

HighLlama wrote:
TB_TB_TB_TB_TB_TB wrote:
HighLlama wrote:
It depends on if you're willing to put in the effort to make them complicated and awful. I know I have.


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Put in the effort to make them NOT complicated and awful?


I was being a little ironic. I've been in complicated, awful relationships. Part of that was my own bad choices.


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True! It's my own bad choices



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28 Mar 2022, 11:44 am

TB_TB_TB_TB_TB_TB wrote:
I think my exceptions are no downside/badside and everything to be perfect

A relationship in which "everything" is "perfect" is highly unlikely and probably does not exist.

To have a good relationship, it is necessary for both partners to learn conflict-resolution skills and to have a commitment to resolving differences in a mutually agreeable way as much as possible.


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28 Mar 2022, 1:19 pm

If you say "all" and there is one exception, the whole statement is wrong

You can't measure complexity or quality

A relationship's complexity and quality, constantly changing



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04 Apr 2022, 8:21 pm

My boyfriend recommended this forum to me. He was diagnosed with Asperger’s in his 30s. Our relationship has been complicated because we are both experiencing a learning curve. His is that I’m his first serious relationship, and mine is that I’m navigating how make sure I don’t compromise his needs and boundaries. I believe it’s possible for relationships to be incredible. I adore him, and our communication is better than any relationship I’ve ever been in. A lot of the things I’ve read here are very familiar. He doesn’t know if he will ever want to be in a “full time” relationship. We live hours apart and spend 3-4 days a week away from each other. He also was single for the majority of his life and nearly gave up. I hope it’s ok for me to post here.



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04 Apr 2022, 8:27 pm

Sabriel08 wrote:
I hope it’s ok for me to post here.

It is okay. :D Your presence and participation are indeed welcome here.
With 'here' meaning both this topic and the forum as a whole.


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05 Apr 2022, 2:01 am

Obviously not all relationships are complicated and awful.
They may have their complicated and awful moments, but that shouldn't be the majority of the relationship.
If it is you're either with the wrong person or maybe you're not that easy to get along with yourself.


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