Do we have more luck getting one night stands?

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You really haven't engaged with my post - or others that are helpful on this thread.

How about this more direct version: those are two nights when you could instead save money and undertake courses that gain you a qualification or a skill that could get you a full time or good part time job. Or simply meditate, do pilates, yoga, to work on interoception to improve your wellbeing.

It depends, some guys with ASD might be blessed in terms of looks and superficial social skills to navigate finding hook-ups, especially if they don't form deep connections with people. Others might lack those traits and/or only be capable of a few deep connections with people and be more prone to only forming long-term relationships.

Hooking up and one night stands are mostly based on physical attraction, so it would make sense that attractive people have an easier time hooking up compared to less attractive people.

It also depends on your gender. For autistic women, unless they're very unattractive and/or very overweight, getting hookups and ONS's will be very easy. I know an autistic woman who was average at best, maybe even a little below average in the face, but had absolutely no problems with meeting guys at bars. But then again, she was a wild and sexually adventurous sorority girl.

For men on the other hand, a lot of how easy hooking up will be is based on your looks. If you have a decent body, decent face, not overweight, not too short (under 5 ft 7), and decent social skills, you can generally be successful in that type of avenue. Traditionally unattractive men will struggle.

I would say do the opposite. Hanging out at the same pub regularly might help more than going online.

I'd imagine that the skillset and attributes that aid in initially forming relationships would be quite similar to those required for attracting sex partners for one-night stands. Given that both entail the employment of social skills, those of us who struggle socially probably don't do much better with one than the other.

If anything, I'd think it'd generally be easier for heterosexual aspie guys to establish a long-term relationship than have multiple one-night stands, since a relationship only requires finding one person who likes and accepts you, where having a series of one-night stands requires adequate social skills to promptly establish rapport with multiple different people.

You need to GET A JOB.

Unless you are profoundly disabled, you can work at something. You have to bring a hell of a lot else to the table to attract a woman if you are an unemployed, chronically unemployed man.