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goldfish21
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21 Jul 2022, 12:27 pm

That stood out as being accurate 100%.. the vital few vs trivial many, signal:noise etc

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In discussing the “problems” of sex in “How to Think More About Sex,” the delightful School of Life co-founder Alain de Botton writes, “Great sex, like happiness more generally, may be the precious and sublime exception. During our most fortunate encounters, it is rare for us to appreciate how privileged we are. It is only as we get older, and look back repeatedly and nostalgically to a few erotic episodes, that we start to realize with what stinginess nature extends her gifts to us — and therefore what an extraordinary and rare achievement of biology, psychology and timing satisfying sex really is.”


Truth! So glad I have a pornographic memory. 8)


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21 Jul 2022, 12:43 pm

I often wonder if, say, female cats feel good when they have sex.

I've seen cats have sex---and it seems to me that female sort of gets the "short end of the stick."

To me, sex is nice, pleasurable----but not something to get all worked up about. Not something to base one's life on.



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21 Jul 2022, 12:56 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I often wonder if, say, female cats feel good when they have sex.

I've seen cats have sex---and it seems to me that female sort of gets the "short end of the stick."

To me, sex is nice, pleasurable----but not something to get all worked up about. Not something to base one's life on.


I'm sure animals get pleasure from sex. I've read that dolphins are known to have sex simply for pleasure vs. procreation.

That's one perspective. I know others irl who say that literally Everything is about sex.. life, work, money, success, power, fitness etc - literally everything - is about obtaining Hot af sex & orgasming. Full stop, period. Sex, sex, sex. And they live their lives accordingly.


I'd like to think I fall somewhere in between. There are other things of value I enjoy spending my time and energy on, from sports to helping people in need, But, I definitely Do enjoy amazing sex and can relate to the above quote Big Time.


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21 Jul 2022, 2:29 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I often wonder if, say, female cats feel good when they have sex.

Creatures with breeding incentives will have an evolutionary advantage.

Some of these incentives are encouragement oriented, such as humans and dolphins.
That is, mating behavior itself provides physiological pleasure.

Some of these incentives are punishment oriented, such as cats.
That is, not reproducing during estrus will bring physiological pain - which does not determine the individual's feelings of reproductive behavior itself.
For cats, ovulation of female cats is promoted by pain during mating, which makes mating behavior itself a torture for female cats.


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21 Jul 2022, 2:59 pm

Sex is like pizza. When it’s good, it’s great. And when it’s not so good, hey, it’s still pizza!