Well I can remember not trying to "make a move" on somebody until having hung out with her 3 or 4 times, and being told she wondered what had taken me so long. Fact is, I had prior experience with girls who went out with me or even invited me to visit them, but I eventually learned they were actually hung up on somebody else they couldn't be with full time or only considered me a friend, or only went on dates with me because I paid or because they possibly didn't have much else to do at that time. One girl would let me kiss her but nothing else, and I had the impression she was a "good girl" but I learned later she hadn't been a virgin for a long time, it was just that her mother was preventing her from seeing her boyfriend. When I finally got up the nerve to try snogging the girl I referred to in my opening sentence, her response was to start rubbing my crotch. It's possible she would have had sex with me the evening we first met, had I made a move. She did have a history of enjoying sex outside of established relationships so the fact that she was physically attracted to me might have been good enough for her.
Another experience I had had when younger was girls showing interest when they first met me but then quickly losing interest after more exposure to my personality.
Bottom line is that in my case, not pressuring a date for sex early on was probably due mostly to fear of rejection rather than respect for women, although I have NEVER wanted to have sex with someone who didn't also want it as much as I did.
@OP So do you like like this guy? Can you imagine being physically intimate with him, now that he has shown evidence of not being a player?
23 Jun 2022, 2:14 pm
