kraftiekortie wrote:
I’m a 5 foot 5 autistic beta male.
I had a girlfriend in high school, quite a few relationships in my 20s, and got married in my 30s.
The reason why you were successful with dating and I wasn't may have been based on several different factors.
- Since you're obviously older than I am, maybe it was the time period you grew up in and it was easier to find a partner back then. You grew up in an era before online dating and Tinder really started taking over. You also didn't have the internet back then so you were forced to go out and socialize more and was never exposed to redpill/incel content on the internet which may have made your problems even worse.
- Maybe it was the city you grew up in, and it's easier to find a partner where you live compared to where I live for whatever reason. People may be more open minded, or less materialistic and shallow. It may have been you grew up in a small enough town where people knew you more and could put in a good word for you to potential partners.
- Maybe it was the culture you grew up in which made a difference. If your culture encouraged people to be social and outgoing, then it might have helped you with your dating life down the road.
- Maybe it was your family upbringing. If your mom and dad actively encouraged you to date, and you had an older brother willing to help you out, that may have made a difference.
- Maybe you were better looking than I was.
- Maybe you were more outgoing, personable, and/or more of a risk-taker than I was. All three of those personality traits are associated with greater dating success.
- Maybe you were less picky than I was or went for women who were more in your "league". You didn't waste your time chasing really hot girls you had nothing in common with, but instead went for women you'd have stood a shot with.
- Maybe you took rejection better than I did. Instead of crawling to the internet and whining, you continued to pursue until you found someone.