Muse933277 wrote:
What would your dating life have looked like if you were neurotypical instead of autistic? Would dating have been easier, harder, or just about the same? Leave your comments down below.
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For me, my dating life would have been wayyyyyyyyyyyyy easier had I been born neurotypical instead of autistic, and also perhaps been a bit taller as well. As a super short autistic male, my experience with dating was nothing but rejection throughout my teens and the first half of my twenties. Every woman I pursued and asked out either flat out ignored my advances, or put me in the friendzone, which I suspect was a simple lack of physical attraction. My experiences screwed my confidence up, and I became very angry and bitter as a result of constant rejection.
Now imagine had I been neurotypical and by the end of puberty, 5 ft 10. This was the life I was supposed to have if it weren't for things going wrong. I likely would have had a normal dating life, and a normal sex life. I would have had several cute girlfriends, lost my virginity at a relatively young age, and probably have gotten married by the age of 30.
If I were NT, I would probably have a lot more sex back in my teens and 20's. I mean, there were plenty of occasions when women flirted with me but I haven't noticed it at the time. Also, I was with a girl with very low sex drive for 6 years and it has not bothered me, so I wasn't really going around trying to hook up with anyone to cheat on her. After break-up I was so depressed that I've lost appetite for sex entirely for months, to the point I've rejected an attractive girl I've liked and who was obviously horny for me - I do not regret it, I still feel bad about losing a person I've considered a friend this way.
Assuming that being NT would mean:
-No awkwardness in social situations
-Easiness of picking up clues and recognising flirt
-Average sex drive with nothing against having casual sex with people I am not attracted to intellectually (if I do not consider someone interesting and/or smart it is an instand turn off for me).
I would most likely have richer dating life and more opportunities for getting a bang with someone. So it would be easier. But question is - do I really care? No, honestly. I think I was always in a good place when it comes to my desires and needs vs opportunities.