Guys to overprotective of there girlfriends?

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A 'concerning pattern of behaviour' sounds like someone who is planning on doing something actually malicious,illegal or actual harassment.

What jamesy has posted is simply no worse than any else in a pub, and is obviously innocent stuff influenced by autism.

To actually begin a relationship with a woman jamesy would have to stand there and wait for them to talk to him for it not to be harassment or have really good social skills where he is not rejected. This is simply a young man trying out certain things , they don't work, then trying something else.

From what I remmeber he stared at a girl, she made a disparaging comment, had a chat with someone else's girlfriend and texted a girl once possibly twice.

When you say 'a concerning pattern of behaviour' what exactly is the concern?

Why do you think I stopped going to bars?

Bars are places where you might not meet the nicest people. And you might meet these people when they are not in their greatest mental state.

And they might turn something really insignificant into something significant. Which could get you hurt.

I surely hope James didn't talk to a woman he knew was out on a date with another guy.

Bars are also places that one can get kicked of and thoroughly misbehave in oneself. Other people may be less of a problem than one might think.

Just like "retail" isn't really a good place for an Aspie to work, bars aren't exactly a good place for Aspies to attempt to find love.

Square peg, round hole.

It would probably be worse for an Aspe to get drunk than it would be for a "normal" person to get drunk.

The "misbehaving" part while drunk is part and parcel of many people who get drunk.

Even when I went into bars back in the early 80s, I didn't drink. Except sodas.

OK I re-read the thread and apparently this staring incident was 8 years ago, so he is the kind of person who makes a mistake and learns from it.

If I'm missing something please could you write what it is.

'making women uncomfortable' is the effect but you have to look at the motive or reason it's happening.

If jamesy were going into a bar and doing it on purpose that would be cause for concern. The fact that it's happened like three times in 8 years(?) and was due to misunderstanding is not cause for any concern.

In a courtroom they always look for motive. If i were to break a man's arm, the court would ask why i did it. If i said i made a mistake they would charge me with something like endangerment or negligence or just let me off, if they worked out i did it on purpose i'd get 'grevious bodily harm' which would carry a harsh sentence.