When to talk about getting laid

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when you (almost) completely know someone

This relates totally to the thread.

It's about creating optimal conditions for two lovers to enjoy each other, if they want to enjoy each other.

And I believe "getting someone into bed" shouldn't be so slick.

The "method" really should be "no method."

I believe it's optimal when it happens naturally.

I never had a "method."

If I had a "method," I would fall flat on my face. I'd be laughed at from here to Kingdom Come.

I learned that "getting laid" as a sort of victory is a hollow victory, really.

There’s nothing wrong with a purely sexual relationship as long as both parties are fully informed that that’s what it is and consenting.

Sexual experiences like this mean different things to different people. Some may find them hollow, others not so much.

I was talking more about the pursuit of “getting laid” and the alleged “victory” obtained via “getting laid.”

I thought I would be exuberant after my “first time.” I thought I would attain a “higher echelon” of status.

Instead, I had an “oh well” feeling. A feeling of anticlimax because the exuberance and the “raise in status” didn’t come.

Most women are looking for a serious relationship and not a "Wham - Bam - Thankyou Maam!"

Well...dont use the term "getting laid" when you talk about it -with the person you are hoping to "lay". Lol!

When the two of you are already caressing and necking you might ask "if we can get closer?". Something like that.

I'd imagine that most men want some reasonable belief that a woman may stick around before taking her on a very expensive date or paying for a vacation and world travel with her.

Just to try and weed out the women who may hop off to the next guy and see what he feels like spending her.

You don't want to be taken advantage of, and you try to minimize the chance of being taken advantage of as much as possible by getting to know a woman before spending on expensive dates with her.

In the same manner, women try to weed out guys who only want sex and then move to the next woman. By delaying sex (or expensive gifts) until after you known the person and feel that they like you for who you are, you can theoretically minimize your risk of being used and hurt.

Sex DOES feel good….when most things come together for the couple.

I certainly do not……

In Israel, virtually all men and women have to serve in the armed forces for, I believe, two years.

And there's a bunch of countries who want to blow Israel to smithereens.