I keep crushing on fictional characters
Mikurotoro92
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Yeah I am considering online dating too but my situation is a little different because I have to take care of my mom
Even if I do find a partner I fear my mom STILL won't let me leave home since I'm needed as a caretaker!
Which is why I am working on untethering myself FIRST then once I move out THEN start looking for a partner
This means my first step is to get a job and a car
But sometimes life has a funny way of working out and who knows?
I could possibly meet a guy at Physical Therapy today!
Or that guy our friend Debbie is setting me up with as a pen pal could end up being my future husband...
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Even if I do find a partner I fear my mom STILL won't let me leave home since I'm needed as a caretaker!
Which is why I am working on untethering myself FIRST then once I move out THEN start looking for a partner
This means my first step is to get a job and a car
But sometimes life has a funny way of working out and who knows?
I could possibly meet a guy at Physical Therapy today!
Or that guy our friend Debbie is setting me up with as a pen pal could end up being my future husband...
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See that's the issue
How can me and my brother break free AND make sure my mom's needs are adequately met?
I believe it's going to come down to my mom having a major health crisis which forces her into the ER and eventually Assisted Living that will FINALLY allow us to untether from her!
That's when I can put finding a romantic relationship at the forefront of my desires
I have been trying to untether myself for years but I have failed EVERY TIME because either I don't have the resources needed to be on my own or I have been guilt-tripped into staying here
But we have a lady named Cathy who is helping us become independant so it may not be long now until we are free...
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Even being moved to a group home is STILL untethering ourselves from our mom which is what I feel will ultimately happen to us
It would go like this:
In the near future my mom is going to have a life-threatening emergency that forces her to go back to the hospital
Only this time she doesn't get to return home and is placed into Assisted Living
Then they will decide to move me and my brother to a group home where we would FINALLY be free from my mom!
It is here where I will make friends and find the love of my life
Then will come the 6 months of dating and if I play my cards right...marriage
My mom will probably die before my wedding
The only thing stopping me from finding my soulmate is being tethered to my mom!
Well, that all is going to change next year
2023 will be MY year of independance & love!! !
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Yeah it sucks
I HATE having to be my mom's slave instead of going to social events and meeting new people!
This has set me back 2 years from looking for my soulmate and a good career
I'm sick of it so I have been creating a plan for next year to FINALLY untether myself from my mom ONCE AND FOR ALL
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Lol no way!
I mean I am creating a plan to become independant and autonomous next year
I have no idea how long my mom has left
Putting her in Assisted Living or nursing home is the solution but it means patiently waiting for her to have a major health crisis
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I'm considered to be my gf's caretaker because of her issues with living alone. My income does not affect her benefits since I'm not supposed to be paying rent & utilities like electricity, water, & gas(instead I pay for our cable, net, cellphones, & some personal & over the counter meds & supplements & such for her). Since she's on SNAP, I could get a stipend from SNAP if I was not on Social Security Disability but I could get it if I was working instead of collecting disability. It seems kinda screwy since I would be allowed to work part time some & still collect disability & being her caretaker could potentially prevent me from working at all. OK I'll admit that officially being her caretaker isn't really my reason for not working, it's probably more of an excuse since I'm overwhelmed by the idea of trying to find employment I could do that would allow me to work very limited hours so I don't risk screwing up my benefits.
I have no personal experience with group homes. I could not get in them due to them being majorly underfunded in my area & me not having the right diagnoses or not being severely disabled enough in specific areas instead of looking at the whole picture & combo of all my various issues. I heard some group homes don't allow adults to have adult rights. They're basically put in guardianship situations & get treated like they are little kids who are not allowed to go out by themselves & they have set bedtimes & stuff.
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I'm considered to be my gf's caretaker because of her issues with living alone. My income does not affect her benefits since I'm not supposed to be paying rent & utilities like electricity, water, & gas(instead I pay for our cable, net, cellphones, & some personal & over the counter meds & supplements & such for her). Since she's on SNAP, I could get a stipend from SNAP if I was not on Social Security Disability but I could get it if I was working instead of collecting disability. It seems kinda screwy since I would be allowed to work part time some & still collect disability & being her caretaker could potentially prevent me from working at all. OK I'll admit that officially being her caretaker isn't really my reason for not working, it's probably more of an excuse since I'm overwhelmed by the idea of trying to find employment I could do that would allow me to work very limited hours so I don't risk screwing up my benefits.
I have no personal experience with group homes. I could not get in them due to them being majorly underfunded in my area & me not having the right diagnoses or not being severely disabled enough in specific areas instead of looking at the whole picture & combo of all my various issues. I heard some group homes don't allow adults to have adult rights. They're basically put in guardianship situations & get treated like they are little kids who are not allowed to go out by themselves & they have set bedtimes & stuff.
All my friends think I'm too immature for love because I don't get out into the world often enough
That's NOT my fault
It's because of me having to be my mom's caretaker
Yes I live in the U.S
I'm not sure if my brother desires to be independant but I think he secretly does based on how he acts when my mom asks him to do some ridiculous demand
Well now that I have met someone through our friend and he is possibly interested in starting a relationship that COULD lead to marriage it may not be long now until I am untethered from my mom!
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This situation is confusing because you and your brother seem tied to your mother due to her lack of independence OTOH you raise doubts about your own independence. It's perfectly true that somebody who is borderline independent can do just fine living in a partnered situation i.e. sharing a bed as well as a dwelling but might not do well living alone. However in the world of disability people are expected to become fully independent before getting "permission" to enter into an intimate relationship. Ironically the same isn't expected of NTs, who can go from living with parents to being married to their college sweetheart with zero disapproval. I was in a situation something like this when I moved in with a woman who was probably autistic, who had just moved out of her parents' house with no real plan for long-term independence and I think my parents believed she was trading sex for rent, food, and transportation and I suppose for the couple of months until she found a job this was arguably true although the fact is that we were truly in love with each other. Truth to tell she was way more independent than she appeared to be and I much less. In fact I didn't live entirely on my own until I was 27 and even that didn't ultimately work out; I moved back in with my parents until I was almost 30 (and then found myself sleeping with one of my neighbors at my next apartment).
You are in a period of great change in your life. Please continue to provide updates!
I'm considered to be my gf's caretaker because of her issues with living alone. My income does not affect her benefits since I'm not supposed to be paying rent & utilities like electricity, water, & gas(instead I pay for our cable, net, cellphones, & some personal & over the counter meds & supplements & such for her). Since she's on SNAP, I could get a stipend from SNAP if I was not on Social Security Disability but I could get it if I was working instead of collecting disability. It seems kinda screwy since I would be allowed to work part time some & still collect disability & being her caretaker could potentially prevent me from working at all. OK I'll admit that officially being her caretaker isn't really my reason for not working, it's probably more of an excuse since I'm overwhelmed by the idea of trying to find employment I could do that would allow me to work very limited hours so I don't risk screwing up my benefits.
I have no personal experience with group homes. I could not get in them due to them being majorly underfunded in my area & me not having the right diagnoses or not being severely disabled enough in specific areas instead of looking at the whole picture & combo of all my various issues. I heard some group homes don't allow adults to have adult rights. They're basically put in guardianship situations & get treated like they are little kids who are not allowed to go out by themselves & they have set bedtimes & stuff.
All my friends think I'm too immature for love because I don't get out into the world often enough
That's NOT my fault
It's because of me having to be my mom's caretaker
Yes I live in the U.S
I'm not sure if my brother desires to be independant but I think he secretly does based on how he acts when my mom asks him to do some ridiculous demand
Well now that I have met someone through our friend and he is possibly interested in starting a relationship that COULD lead to marriage it may not be long now until I am untethered from my mom!
Well, I wish you the best of luck, then.
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You are in a period of great change in your life. Please continue to provide updates!
The issue is I am TRYING to become independant either from finding my soulmate or by getting a job and moving out on my own, whichever comes first
Being my mom's caregiver is what is preventing me from making the changes that I need to make in order to propel my life forward
I know exactly what must be done to be able to find my soulmate but it's hard for me to have my desires manifest so I can actually go out and make it happen!
All because I am stuck at home taking care of my mom
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And let's return to the original topic of this thread:
Falling in love with fictional characters
Some of those fictional cartoon characters, such as SpongeBob SquarePants I actually share many things in common with so it makes sense why I fantasize about them
But what if this is an omen or premonition from God that my soulmate is about to reveal and manifest itself VERY soon?
Maybe God feels I have suffered enough being my mom's caregiver that he is offering me a way out
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Me, I may even have the worst luck than you are, Sara.
Yeah I prayed to God today because the pastor's wife told me that's the way to manifest true love
She said now I must wait until God creates a scenario that will allow me to converge with my soulmate
Why are you having bad luck manifesting your soulmate Danny?
Look at your quote from the Fire Emblem character Corrin
THAT should give you (and me!) hope that love will happen for both of us and we just need to believe we are in control of the outcome of our reality!
EDIT: But first thing to do is break away from our parents and become independant
Unfortunately, that's where the challenging part lies
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