Is it pointless to have sex just to say ''you've done it'' ?

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Casual sex without personal regard, from personal experience, hurts a lot of people.

Considering that there is a social stigma of sorts attached to being a virgin in this day & age - for some people, it makes more sense to seek out a sexual experience, even for the sake of it, for social status & sometimes to satisfy curiosity.

It's still pointless to have sex just for the sake of some "status."

Hey....don't you tell me off!

I don't have a "moral stake" in this.

I'm not trying to run peoples' lives. I'm just offering my opinion---like you are offering your opinion.

All I'm saying is that "virginity" is something which is a priority among many people, and the lack of loss of it makes people depressed.

I've seen people post here that they want to end their life because they've never lost their virginity. It's a tragedy because "sex is not life," nor does being a virgin or not being a virgin determine one's worth.

^except that is not the neutral stance of your posts. Your posts in this thread are full of personal bias and not necessarily applicable to everyone else.

I haven’t said anything about being for or against sex for the sake of sex, only that it’s a very personal decision and people need to decide for themselves what’s right for them whereas you seem to be shaming the idea as a bad decision unless there’s some deep emotional connection. That may be true for you, but I think it’s.. not good to suggest that ought to be others’ truth.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

Actually NOT.

If you would read my posts carefully, you would notice that I advocate for an emotional connection, and that my experience with casual sex hasn't been a good one. I even said it was based upon "my experience"

No sirree.....I've known many people who have had much casual sex. And I have nothing against it per se in a moral sense. I used to do it myself, so if I would make a moral judgement, it would be against myself.

I read "The Happy Hooker" when I was a teenager---and I really enjoyed it. I liked the character Xaviera Hollander.

I've been friends with strippers in the past.

Personally, I never understood equating sex and morality or romance.
Sure the two can be wonderful together, but they don't have to be.
Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

Right. It is. Freud was right.

But, in my mind, there's a connection. Can't help it. I'm not "superior" because of it. In fact, in some ways, I'm not as "good" as some people who indulge in casual sex.

I tried to have sex with no emotional component. Something (nothing) came up!

I've never had casual sex in my life.
Some people have had hundreds of partners.
I can't believe they had an emotional connection with all those people.

I've only had two consensual partners.
To me the important factor is consent, not necessarily romance.
It's pretty rare to get both at once, especially for the first time.

I think kraftiekortie has good intentions, goldfish, regardless of whether he is right or wrong in this thread (I tend to disagree that sex needs to have an emotional component, personally).