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amykitten
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20 Nov 2022, 6:03 am

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What wrong with me? I talk to men for days or over a week then they disappear on me. Why they lose interest in me, it’s my fault? Did they find another woman? I can feel like I’m the second best, men want another woman.


I think that's just guys and dating in online, and possible in person in general. You talk to several people at once and figure out who is the best fit for you and once you're leaning towards one person you give that person more attention. That said after a couple of weeks or so its natural for the attention a guy is given you lessens as the novelty of someone new has worn off. This doesn't always mean he's lost interest in you. Just he's busy with work, activities and other general things going in and no offence to men, it takes a lot more effort in general for men to socialise than women as we're just born with the natural need to do so. Which is why its harder to diagonse girls on the spectrum as they are more likely to learn to mask and fit in with other girls early on. Not saying this is always the case after all its a spectrum.

So just do what guys do, build lots of relationships with lots of people and don't share to much and just make him want to get to know you more. Although if you're anything like me you'd have already picked one decided what you want to do and invision your future with him in the whole house and white picket fence then get devestated when it doesn't work out.



The guy I was talking to, he was visiting his brother & his family, he said it’s hard to get away to chat with me.


Did the situation improve after he got home, or is he still there? But yes it's harder to reply whilst visiting from personal experience. But if it doesn't improve a bit when he gets back that's fine too.


He told me he will go home last Monday, maybe he stays longer, it been a week then I haven’t heard from him.


I'm guessing you've message him since? based on your other post. If so, just cut your losses and he's not good enough for you, although it doesn't seem it at this moment in time. You'll find the right person and just distract yourself by doing something else in the mean time



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21 Nov 2022, 1:05 am

amykitten wrote:
I'm guessing you've message him since? based on your other post. If so, just cut your losses and he's not good enough for you, although it doesn't seem it at this moment in time. You'll find the right person and just distract yourself by doing something else in the mean time



This guy stopped talking to me on November 12, I texted him, I texted him the next day, I last texted him Nov 15, he saw my text on the 12. My other friends don’t talk to me everyday, my male friend talk to me once week or less, my other friend, she talk to me less often.


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21 Nov 2022, 2:47 am

people can be very disappointing. as sartre said, "hell is other people."



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21 Nov 2022, 2:55 am

Can you not invite some of these men that you talk to over to meet in person? If they get a hint it'll only stay as an online chat they'll eventually lose interest.



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21 Nov 2022, 7:18 pm

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Can you not invite some of these men that you talk to over to meet in person? If they get a hint it'll only stay as an online chat they'll eventually lose interest.

Agreed! There's nothing men despise more than women who string them along with promises of a date, but instead use them as online pen pals for free attention/validation, deliberately or otherwise. I've dealt with my share of that trash, before I retired from dating.

(Before anyone issues me a warning, "trash" refers to women's actions, not women themselves.)



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21 Nov 2022, 8:50 pm

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Why do women want men? I wish I don’t want a man, they are trouble! Liars! Play mind games with you.


What type men are you talking to exactly? You made reference age gaps, doctors in the recent past ect. I can't help but feel you're standards are very high so you're unknowingly picking catfishers a lot who were never real to begin with.

You even said the doctor wasn't real.


It seems like you are around some pretty crappy men.



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21 Nov 2022, 11:43 pm

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Why do women want men?



Same reason why men want women.

We're all lonely and horny.