Are Autistics Less Attractive Compared To Neurotypicals?

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I'm a tomboy and don't wear much make-up and I'm not very good at making styles with my hair even when watching YouTube tutorials. I have long hair but I put it up in a clip when I'm at work.
I work at a bus garage with mostly guys, which I don't mind.

I remember reading about some studies related to autisim & gender orientation. The results showed that a much hgher percentage of autistic women are trangendered or feel they were born the wrong gender than autistic guys who do. It's important to note that the studies had a small amount of participents thou. One theory about autisim is that it's an extreme male brain. It would make sense to me that some autistic women are coventionally more physically unattractive due to them dressing & looking more masculine.

My 2nd girfriend was on the spectrum & she kinda wished she was a man. She didn't want to transion thou due her parents & area where she lived being very intolerant. She dressed like a tomboy. She was overweight but started changing her diet after realizing that her body didn't handle certain foods well & digestion issues made some of her autism issues worse. She started losing weight after changing her diet.

My current gf is on the spectrum or has lots of overlapping issues. She's masculine in some ways & femnline in others & her dress style is kinda a mix. She's overweight but a lot of it is due to various physical & mental issues she's dealing with. She has pain & is an emotinal eater.

As for myself. I do not conform to the male stereotype & I've had phases where I've majorly questioned my gender but some of it was due to my OCD. I hit puberty early but I was never very physically strong or had much mussles even when I was working long hours two years straight doing custodial type things. I was very skinny as a kid till I was 30 due to being a very picky eater who could not cook & mom hated cooking special meals for me so I usually just ate one big meal a day & only a few snacks otherwise. I've gained a lot of weight in the last 10 years due to needing to eat 3 meals a day cuz of meds & med side-effects. I want to binge-eat 1ce I start eating till it's all gone cuz I'm so used to eating a lot when I do eat. I've lost a little weight this year cuz I'm trying to buy less snacks(cant really aford to buy em thanx to inflation rising much more rapidly than gov benefits do), I'm tr starting to try exercising more, & a med change is helping as well. I look a bit more masculine in some ways since I started losing my head hair in my mid 20s. I am doing some things to try & stop male-pattern baldness & the meds cause me to look more feminine in other ways cuz they reduce my body & facial hair growth. I like having less body & facial hair growth & there's also another reason I'm on those meds.

In truth, not everybody is "totally" masculine, or "totally" feminine.

I consider myself 100% male. I like sports----but I don't like some "manly" pursuits like carpentry or trying to "pick up girls." And I like some "feminine" pursuits like poetry and contemplating Nature.

There is a problem, these days, in that people feel they have to be 100% masculine, with no feminine characteristics, in order to be a "full man," and vice versa for the women.

In the old days, there were the gender stereotypes, of course. But many people did have a healthy notion that most pursuits are "people" pursuits, rather than being "masculine" or "feminine."

I'm just too lazy to fuss too much over my appearance but I always try to look presentable. I do often forget to check my face in the mirror though.

When I get married I do want a professional makeover and be as beautiful as possible.

There is the fact, too, that many autistic people happen to be physically attractive as well.

We have photos here of beautiful autistic women, and handsome autistic men.

I know how to look good but I downplay my attractivity on purpose.
First, I like people to listen to what I'm saying, not to stare at my neckline.
Second, when I was looking like a pretty lady, people were very easily offended when I didn't act up to their expectations about a pretty lady. But when I look like a classic nerd, random people show way more tolerance to my quirks.
And, third, I can use the saved time and energy to do other things.

I was cute as a child. I would post a picture but I don't want to give away my identity here. I could PM but only to those who don't live in the UK (please do not take personally ).

Just saw a joke about this subject by an autistic comedian

James Stanley Autism and Looks

I think autistics tend to look rougher due to us tending to lead rougher lives. We tend to get bullied physically growing up. Medical professionals don't always take us seriously. We sometimes self-harm. We sometimes take psych meds to help manage some of our comorbids(like anxiety, OCD, depression, stress, irritability) that have side-effects like weight gain or other health issues. We can have problems sleeping due to stress & our mental comorbids. We may struggle with addictions like alcohol, smoking, drugs, & eating unhealthy food. We can have problems finding &/or maintaining gainful employment & we may need to work very long hours doing manual labor for $hit pay. Our living situations may not be healthy physically or mentally due to poverty or us not being able to take care of ourselves well or manage things well in our lives. I know I'm being a downer here & it's important to note that things are not this bad for lots of us but in general these things tend to be worse for autistics than NTs if things are not broken down into any subgroups.