Unusual Relationship

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I've come to the conclusion I would need an unusual relationship. I do want to change though, some things I probably can't and won't and other things I think I need to do gradually in the relationship.

I'm probably jumping the gun a bit. As I struggle with the whole asking a girl out but hypothetically, given that 'we' have agreed to try exclusively dating what do you think of the chances of this working?

# Would initially like to meet up only once or maybe twice a week and not every day
# I find it hard getting close to someone and opening up, to take it as slow as necessary
# Relationships are pretty novel, only just figured out friendships
# Not to be calling me all hours and mostly text and emails
# Have almost no financial security, not looking for a dependent relationship. This won't change for a while
# Will need some hours in the day on my own, but can be social
# I have some irritations such as some sounds, and overlaid sounds and voices. No high pitched voices sorry.
# Not expect me to be like most people and be patient
# Am affectionate, but need time to acclimatise
# I may not share my obsessions by will share interests
# I don't mind them doing their own thing and spending time with their friends as long as I don't have to, I wouldn't expect them to spend time with my friends if they didn't want to
# Have some emotional blunting, pursuing that too.
# I'm disorganised, can't manage my life, have cognitive problems that prevent me from earning enough to live on. I have been trying really had to peruse that but it will take some time. I wouldn't expect them to live with me 24/7 any time soon

I figure it probably would have to be an Aspie or someone comparable. I know not every Aspie would need an Aspie by those that do probably would suit me. I haven't put what I like in a girl yet. I have some things that I think are quite important like being on the same wave length intellectually but other than that, I don't want to limit myself even more by thinking about it to much.

Sounds fine to me.

The points you have listed are pretty similar to the 'rules' to which my boyfriend has to adhere and he is fine with that. He accepts me for who I am.

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How are your guidelines unusual?

Tim

I was just marveling he knows what a 'usual' relationship is.

I am twice your age and have no idea what a 'usual' relationship is!

Ahh, I haven't explained this well

An unusual relationship would involve you going home to a massive orgy of supermodels. The relationship you are looking for just requires the girl to have a bit of patience and to not be too clingy.

Well, there's nothing too unusual in your list so here's a suggestion to help you find the perfect woman. Computer Dating.

Pause for the laughter to die down.....................

Think about this carefully. You fill out an application form where you give an honest description of yourself (important) and then you specify what sort of woman you would like to meet. In a few days you get a printout or an email giving contact details of women who match your wishes and (wonder of wonders) you match their description of the perfect partner.

Who you chose is up to you but I was a member of Dateline UK for about four years and I had a great time.

Ed Almos

Or is kind to kittens and puppies.