The importance of looks

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At least....it's not "where WAS I".

My ideal screenname would be: Where I Will Be.

Actually....I do like cole slaw. Maybe I'll buy one of those dolls

There used to be a user here called Who_Am_I.

Women tend to talk about their struggles in the women's forum where it's taboo for men to post cos we don't want to be accused of going where we're not welcome or mansplaining.

When a woman comes onto the haven they get loads of sympathy... except if it's the same person posting about the same thing many times.

This is one of the first threads I looked at
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Tons of advice&help given for a situation which was not even an emergency

I don't feel the thread you referenced is that bad at all.

She was just feeling sort of down.

That’s funny.

Women don’t use the women’s forum for love and dating. They use Love and Dating, or at least they try to.

The subforum was taken over by men who portray us as gold-digging, fat, lazy liars who choose super-model NT men over them, yet miraculously we have no problems because we can snap our fingers and be used for sex any day we want because we’re walking vaginas. That should make us happy.

If we happen to be good looking we can make porn accounts and exploit ourselves online for money, because that’s what we’re good for and we love it.

If we say otherwise we’re wrong because of an Incel YouTube video or bar graph that confirms we’re shallow b*****s.

Where are the threads by men about women’s mental health? The threads where men tell us to love our bodies? The ones with any amount of reciprocal empathy, where men say thank you to the women who support them through all this crap, and endeavour to tell them it’s going to be OK even if they’ve been abused?

All I have so far is someone offering to buy an inflatable Isabella they can throw darts at, and bell curve charts to mansplain what TP and I had already said because we didn’t say it right. Now there’s another mansplained explanation of how I’m feeling today, by a member who is married and shouldn’t even be in Love and Dating since he hasn’t dated in 30 years.

I guess I should be thankful someone’s willing to pay me anything, since I’m such a helpless, dependent gold-digger.

Thanks so much guys.

Autistic men face a lot of rejection in dating then they come here.

So they discuss it here a lot, and yes vitriol is going to spill out, because of being rejected, not being able to have a family,or companionship, or sex, as a result of that.

If your description is of me, I'm seperated and going through with a divorce.

I think when it comes to body positivity, we don't really criticise women's bodies much. One or two posters just make an offhand comment about not liking people who are overweight.

I can see that you do have a history of trying to support men though. It's appreciated but when an autistic man faces that constant rejection it's going to cause bitterness that can't be solved on a forum. Although I think your efforts are good and appreciated anyway.

I think it would be a good idea to have a thread about autistic women's mental health.
I think the autistic men's mental health is a much simpler topic, although their problems can't be solved here.
You don't really see threads by autistic women complaining about not being able to get into a relationship,they are usually different and more complicated things, like meltdowns in public or trauma.

You have to acknowledge there are guys here who don’t believe in what you stated.

I don’t believe in the “looks” stuff or any of that stuff which paint women in a bad light. There are posters here, both men and women, who do not believe in the extremes presented, and who believe thinking in stereotypes is rubbish.

I believe there are abusive people with abusive ideologies within all genders. And I feel terrible that women are exploited and taken advantage of by men. This does happen, probably more frequently than vice versa. I’ve seen it and have known people who were exploited.