How can I make myself attractive to NT women?

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I don’t want to date AS women. I only want to date NT women so I can see what i’m missing. And to feel normal

I was thinking if I put a ton of effort into my appearance then those women would be instantly attracted to me

Gain a substantial amount of social status.

It won't attract all of them, but it will certainly attract some of them, not to mention mean more of them become aware of your existence.

What to I do to gain social status?

This is not an auspicious start.

Perhaps introduce yourself in the Getting to Know Us section of the forum as a beginning?

Wow you guys get offended easily. I’m allowed to pursue whoever I want. I know the woman doesn’t have to like me back, but I can still pursue NT women.

Don't tell them you are Autistic

Guys are more interested in appearance than girls..

Girls are more more interested in guys that make more money than they do.
Or, if that isn't possible, at least make a lot of money compared to similar guys.

Getting a degree or trademan's license. Shows earning potential.

Winning can help as well. Professional golfers often have pretty wives.

Height helps, but there usually isn't much you can do about that.
This obsession with height is frustrating to professional matchmakers.

I’m 6’ 2”, which helps.

I just work in a factory, but I get a lot of overtime.

I’m trying to improve my physical appearance and fitness.

Changing your attitude will help.

You can look better, but if your attitude is s**t, you'll still drive them away.

It really depends on what you want for a partner.

If your main goal is an attractive partner, then concentrate on your own attractiveness. This means looks, clothes, fitness, money, confidence.

If your main goal is a partner that you can form a connection with, concentrate on developing your own hobbies, knowledge, conversation skills, sense of humour.

Ditch the arrogance.  No one was offended.  Women are rarely interested in men who display any form of arrogance or entitlement, unless those men are exceptionally famous, influential, and/or wealthy.

Farther down you report that you're 6'2"" and have a job. So how exactly do you propose to improve your appearance?

You're problem may be only partly related to autism, and partly due to the fact that you're GenZ. Consider this thread:

https://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=419906

Women in your generation are often inexperienced in dating, and uncomfortable with flirting, until their mid-20s or later, so you might want to start by approaching women who are somewhat older.

Maintain a decent job, don't become fat (look after your health and aperance in other words) and shag more women (rack up a bigger "body count" than average if possible)

Autistics will always be at a disadvantage by nature of not being socially fluid. You'll just have to keep the basics in check and sexually interact with more women than the typical NT male to learn how to "cross the line" that little bit easier.

Are there a lot more variables involved? Sure, but amazing career aside, if you never got to last base you'll struggle with women. If you sit at home all day in a bedroom with no job but occasionally get lucky with women, you'll still struggle.

Look at the bigger picture, realise that you'll have to put more effort into becoming more comfortable with women than NT's, take strides in optimizing your apperance, and you'll make the most of your situation.

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Autistic women are often just as much, if not more cute than NT women.

I'm not sure why you discriminate in this area. Being 'normal' isn't the be all and end all.

They vary a lot in personality. He should keep his options open but I understand if he finds it hard to get along with ND women and I understand if ND women have a hard time getting along with ND men.

Two socially difficult people coming together often doesn't make the best match.

1) Being kind, positive, secure with yourself and a healthy dose of confidence helps a lot.

2) Appearance. Get a good haircut, wear clothes that fit you, hygiene, grooming, get in shape, etc. (If you're using dating apps, put time into taking great pics)

3) It's not enough to just look good. You need to also put effort into meeting people, introducing yourself, holding conversation, etc. (It's not realistic to just expect women to throw themselves at you just because you look good. You still need to put in effort. As a guy who is shy, this is something I had to work on. Take an interest in their life, take an interest in their hobbies, ask them questions, etc.

4) You don't have to please everyone. Instead of trying to please people who don't like you, play to your strengths and try to be an awesome partner for the person that will like you. Some people will be attracted to you. Many won't. But if you talk to lots of people, you'll eventually people who are. If someone isn't into you, just move on and talk to other people - instead of trying to please people who don't like you.

5) Try not to generalize people based on AS or NT. Try to get to know them as a person and who they are as an individual. Rather than based on what you expect all NT people to be like.