Opposites attract?

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Like, polar opposites...? I kinda like a girl who's really outgoing, parties all weekends, et cetera.

Which kinda sucks, cause you know that's never gonna work. Not really a big deal, but it got me wondering whether I actually fell for her appearance or because she, on some level, represents everything I'm not (doesn't that sound dramatic...).

I guess the answers somewhere in the middle, but I'd like to hear if any of you have any experiences with this.

They tend to, and not always for the same reasons.
Someone might like another person because they possess a lot of qualities that are (while very different from them) ones they wished they had, too.
Then there are plenty of people who simply take fun in a challenge in life.
People with different hobbies from you can provide variety and new adventures, as well as good reason to occasionally have space from each other.

There are other reasons I'm sure, but those are some that spring to mind.

I don't think so, but at times opposites can compliment each other. The best example I can think of is a quiet person and a talkative person...conversation is usually pretty easy in that scenario.

I have been with a polar opposite person before, and while it was fun and interesting in the beginning, our differences started becoming very apparent. In the end, it almost turned into an emotional tug-o-war, of sorts.

My advice would be; if you are looking to have fun on a temporary basis, then go for it, but if you are looking for a long-term relationship, you might want to find someone else.

The best relationships are usually between people that compliment each other, rather than pull you in opposite directions. Like Stargazer43 said, sometimes opposites can compliment each other, depending on what the issue is, though.

They actually say we tend to be attracted to people who look like us. They also say we tend to be attracted to people who we are compatible with such as same interests, etc...


Like i'm a short white dude. You think i'm going to get with any big black ladies? Hell no.


Although I wouldn't mind dating girls of different races. Like asian or latina. Latina girls can be hawt. (i'm just saying)

Sometimes opposites can compliment each other. My first GF I only dated for about a year-and-a-half because we knew each other when we were kids, but when something else got in the way, I didn't have much of a choice but to break up with her.