Doesn't Anybody F**k Any More? — Reddit edition

Post Reply New Topic

I don't mean to pull it back, but even going to a much smaller scale. One of our kid's friends (girl), talked to a another boy at their high school recently. Was it flirting? Maybe. But it was really down to the fact that someone else was interested in this other boy. She didn't realize this, but still was almost immediately ostracized from their group. Started experiencing verbal abuse and threats.

It feels, on a smaller scale, it's not how society as a whole operates, but how your own social circle, and smaller community does. I'm sorry if this seems nitpicky, but I think we can agree, when we look at our large communities, we have rather broad ideas of acceptable and unacceptable behaviors, but ultimately, we have to live and deal with what our smaller communities where things get more granular. What's fine here, may be a no-no there. I'm in a fairly diverse city, so I feel like I do simultaneously need to let my values be known while respecting others' values, even if they are in disagreement with my own (at least if they are values I don't find abhorrent).

On a macro (?) sense, I totally get you. But in a micro (?) sense, we have to act to get along with one another where we live , it's a different story.

A final note.... I'm not sure if im agreeing to the tee, what you are saying, but writing all this out... . I think I do understand the point better. Not that you did it poorly, it feels like a complex subject, it interests me, and feels like the discussion floats between sort of things we find universal (which is probably a small number of things, and without much elaboration), and then the things we have to shoulder by being part of the smaller communities we are a part of (much more specific, and probably derive much more from customs and habits).

Stories involving people who follow women around, stare at them, make sexual innuendos/creepy remarks, then who get upset/offended when women say no to whatever, get themselves kicked out of the bar, club, or get a terse response from the female(s) in question. The stories pop up a lot on various social media platforms. Then people whine about the low tolerance we have for harassment when harassment happens to many on a regular basis. Catcalling alone…. JFC.

Interesting.

I haven't really used social media for a while so I haven't come across any of that.

That sort of stuff has even come up on WP from time to time.

^ It's not just things that men experience themselves, but also when they see it happen to other people.

In my experience, marginalized and/or disabled people are more likely to be labelled as creeps by women.

I'll give you an example of a real life scenario where some poor guy was unjustly called a creep (note, this is person is not me).

He simply 'liked' perhaps a few too many photos of someone on social media and there was a social storm of him being labelled a creep and people joking about him masturbating over the photos he liked.

He has/had learning disabilities so I'm sure it got to him....