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ChaosCascade
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03 Jun 2024, 1:42 am

I've come to terms that I will never find that special girl. I would prefer to just stick to myself and die alone. I'm to inept to pick up a girls signal or tell if she likes me or not. I've never even had serious female friends due to being shunned in my school years. I'm not an incel girls are just alien to me. I'm 25 and people act like this is sad for some reason. It's not I'm just ugly to women.



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03 Jun 2024, 3:39 am

Your profile says, "Occupation: NEET".

"Not in Education, Employment, or Training" seems to correlate strongly with lack of relationships.



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03 Jun 2024, 10:11 am

ChaosCascade wrote:
I've come to terms that I will never find that special girl. I would prefer to just stick to myself and die alone. I'm to inept to pick up a girls signal or tell if she likes me or not. I've never even had serious female friends due to being shunned in my school years. I'm not an incel girls are just alien to me. I'm 25 and people act like this is sad for some reason. It's not I'm just ugly to women.


It's important to remember that everyone's journey in finding love is different, and it's okay to take the time you need to focus on yourself and your own happiness.



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03 Jun 2024, 11:02 am

Fnord wrote:
Your profile says, "Occupation: NEET".

"Not in Education, Employment, or Training" seems to correlate strongly with lack of relationships.


I did work for 7 years but quit due to being on the verge of a meltdown because of the toxicity.



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03 Jun 2024, 8:49 pm

ChaosCascade wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Your profile says, "Occupation: NEET".  "Not in Education, Employment, or Training" seems to correlate strongly with lack of relationships.
I did work for 7 years but quit due to being on the verge of a meltdown because of the toxicity.
Thus supporting my observation.



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03 Jun 2024, 8:53 pm

jikijiki53 wrote:
ChaosCascade wrote:
I've come to terms that I will never find that special girl. I would prefer to just stick to myself and die alone. I'm to inept to pick up a girls signal or tell if she likes me or not. I've never even had serious female friends due to being shunned in my school years. I'm not an incel girls are just alien to me. I'm 25 and people act like this is sad for some reason. It's not I'm just ugly to women.
It's important to remember that everyone's journey in finding love is different, and it's okay to take the time you need to focus on yourself and your own happiness.
It is also important to remember that lack of employment, education, and training leads to unhappines.

He is not on a "journey in finding love"; he has given up on practically everything that could lead to a relationship.



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04 Jun 2024, 6:48 am

It's all trial and error. You need to be willing to meet dozens, maybe hundreds, of women to find 1 that's a fit for you. And if she's not a fit for you, don't take it personally; just keep meeting more people.

Girls are not aliens; they're just people like guys are. Avoiding half of the population just because of events that happened to you in school doesn't seem healthy.

If you prefer being single that's fine. But if you don't, it's 100% possible if you try.



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04 Jun 2024, 8:37 am

Have you taken a good look in the mirror, an honest self assessment, and asked yourself what can I do to make myself more attractive (i.e the whole package) to women?

God helps those who help themselves.



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04 Jun 2024, 10:11 pm

Minervx_2 wrote:
It's all trial and error. You need to be willing to meet dozens, maybe hundreds, of women to find 1 that's a fit for you. And if she's not a fit for you, don't take it personally; just keep meeting more people.

Girls are not aliens; they're just people like guys are. Avoiding half of the population just because of events that happened to you in school doesn't seem healthy.

If you prefer being single that's fine. But if you don't, it's 100% possible if you try.


I don't hate women or identify as an incel. I also fear false allegations due to courts 9/10 never tsking mens sides and throwing the book at them. Just look at men like Brian Banks for example.



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04 Jun 2024, 10:47 pm

Fnord wrote:
jikijiki53 wrote:
ChaosCascade wrote:
I've come to terms that I will never find that special girl. I would prefer to just stick to myself and die alone. I'm to inept to pick up a girls signal or tell if she likes me or not. I've never even had serious female friends due to being shunned in my school years. I'm not an incel girls are just alien to me. I'm 25 and people act like this is sad for some reason. It's not I'm just ugly to women.
It's important to remember that everyone's journey in finding love is different, and it's okay to take the time you need to focus on yourself and your own happiness.
It is also important to remember that lack of employment, education, and training leads to unhappines.

He is not on a "journey in finding love"; he has given up on practically everything that could lead to a relationship.


I'd still feel unhappy working, the managers will just look for little things to complain about and say s**t behind my back. My days go on and on... they don't end. All my life needed was a sense of someplace to go. But instead I'm destined to be Gods lonely man.



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05 Jun 2024, 12:33 am

Don't feel lonely friend

You're in good company here


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05 Jun 2024, 8:29 am

ChaosCascade wrote:
Fnord wrote:
jikijiki53 wrote:
ChaosCascade wrote:
I've come to terms that I will never find that special girl. I would prefer to just stick to myself and die alone. I'm to inept to pick up a girls signal or tell if she likes me or not. I've never even had serious female friends due to being shunned in my school years. I'm not an incel girls are just alien to me. I'm 25 and people act like this is sad for some reason. It's not I'm just ugly to women.
It's important to remember that everyone's journey in finding love is different, and it's okay to take the time you need to focus on yourself and your own happiness.
It is also important to remember that lack of employment, education, and training leads to unhappines.

He is not on a "journey in finding love"; he has given up on practically everything that could lead to a relationship.


I'd still feel unhappy working, the managers will just look for little things to complain about and say s**t behind my back. My days go on and on... they don't end. All my life needed was a sense of someplace to go. But instead I'm destined to be Gods lonely man.


You almost certainly will be if and for so long as you remain unemployed. Get a job.



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05 Jun 2024, 1:20 pm

ChaosCascade wrote:
Fnord wrote:
jikijiki53 wrote:
ChaosCascade wrote:
I've come to terms that I will never find that special girl. I would prefer to just stick to myself and die alone. I'm to inept to pick up a girls signal or tell if she likes me or not. I've never even had serious female friends due to being shunned in my school years. I'm not an incel girls are just alien to me. I'm 25 and people act like this is sad for some reason. It's not I'm just ugly to women.
It's important to remember that everyone's journey in finding love is different, and it's okay to take the time you need to focus on yourself and your own happiness.
It is also important to remember that lack of employment, education, and training leads to unhappines.

He is not on a "journey in finding love"; he has given up on practically everything that could lead to a relationship.


I'd still feel unhappy working, the managers will just look for little things to complain about and say s**t behind my back. My days go on and on... they don't end. All my life needed was a sense of someplace to go. But instead I'm destined to be Gods lonely man.


When that happens you find a new job and quit, I am currently looking for a new job for that reason. If you truly cannot work you can get on disability but you get more money if you work.


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05 Jun 2024, 9:02 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
ChaosCascade wrote:
Fnord wrote:
jikijiki53 wrote:
ChaosCascade wrote:
I've come to terms that I will never find that special girl. I would prefer to just stick to myself and die alone. I'm to inept to pick up a girls signal or tell if she likes me or not. I've never even had serious female friends due to being shunned in my school years. I'm not an incel girls are just alien to me. I'm 25 and people act like this is sad for some reason. It's not I'm just ugly to women.
It's important to remember that everyone's journey in finding love is different, and it's okay to take the time you need to focus on yourself and your own happiness.
It is also important to remember that lack of employment, education, and training leads to unhappines.

He is not on a "journey in finding love"; he has given up on practically everything that could lead to a relationship.


I'd still feel unhappy working, the managers will just look for little things to complain about and say s**t behind my back. My days go on and on... they don't end. All my life needed was a sense of someplace to go. But instead I'm destined to be Gods lonely man.


When that happens you find a new job and quit, I am currently looking for a new job for that reason. If you truly cannot work you can get on disability but you get more money if you work.



I do get it, will call eventually to get it raised. I'd rather leach of the system that hates us.



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05 Jun 2024, 10:14 pm

ChaosCascade wrote:
I've come to terms that I will never find that special girl.

Maybe you will, maybe you won't.

ChaosCascade wrote:
I would prefer to just stick to myself and die alone.

I can't say that a promise of a better life isn't a delusion, but that kind of life isn't worth living for sure.

ChaosCascade wrote:
I'm to inept to pick up a girls signal or tell if she likes me or not. I've never even had serious female friends due to being shunned in my school years. I'm not an incel girls are just alien to me. I'm 25 and people act like this is sad for some reason. It's not I'm just ugly to women.

Very familiar. Can't say it gets better.



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06 Jun 2024, 7:51 am

ChaosCascade wrote:
I'd still feel unhappy working, the managers will just look for little things to complain about and say s**t behind my back. My days go on and on... they don't end. All my life needed was a sense of someplace to go. But instead I'm destined to be Gods lonely man.


When that happens you find a new job and quit, I am currently looking for a new job for that reason. If you truly cannot work you can get on disability but you get more money if you work.[/quote]


I do get it, will call eventually to get it raised. I'd rather leach of the system that hates us.[/quote]

That attitude is really going to impress women.